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Who’s we? Last I heard you we’re stuck in Pakistan 
, so you’re one of the Bicharey Gharibs now.
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been here a year. otheriwse this is what happens.
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yes, its EXPECTED BECAUSE our relatives in pak ARE BICHAREY GHAREEB, and we are rolling around naked in dollars.
LOL so dramatic, as always!
I don't think everyone is like that. But a lot of people definitely focus solely on the $$$ coming in but don't give consideration to the fact that the spending is in dollars too.
I think the most odd request we have received in this regard was our neighbour from Pakistan who had approached our relative for help who then redirected the neighbour to us and volunteered to give out our phone number without permission. So the neighbour called us and told us their son had given someone 5 lakh to get visa through illegal methods but that didn't work and the 3rd party disappeared with the money. So now the family is pretty much bankrupt and needs immediate help to start some business which their son will manage. They wanted my dad to finance their son's business.
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And getting a job wasn’t an option??
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of course not!
naak kut jaati na…
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This is the silliest excuse ever 
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Getting visas illegally, is it really possible? Getting fake papers once you get in the country is another thing. But I'm guessing those guys at the airports can tell the difference between a fake and real visa.
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Getting visas illegally, is it really possible? Getting fake papers once you get in the country is another thing. But I'm guessing those guys at the airports can tell the difference between a fake and real visa.
fake papers = illegal method of entry
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the phone calls continued each day for a week......finally ammi said, sorry, yeh nahin ho sakta. beti ko ghar bhejna hai to bhej do.
That is so sad...... and then what ahppened? they divorcedher? :(
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lol muzna, bohut jali hui lag rahi ho, yaar. I hear ya. I think the worst for me was when my aunt sent all (4) of her kids to our place for one month in the summer and we were expected to take them around everywhere (not just in Toronto but the instructions were, The Falls and any other must-see places wherever we can easily go). All my siblings and I were working in the summer, so we took turns and took a few days off here and there to accommodate them. Now these are kids (oldest was in Gr 12 at the time) so they didn't have cash or credit cards. We paid for everything. All the places you mentioned and a few local spots like Eaton Centre, Gerrard St etc. In the end, my aunt thanked us for showing them so many places but she complained that we didn't give her kids maximum company and that they were bored at times, stuck at home with my mom.
Some time later, this aunt and her dewar/dewraani (newly weds then) came to Toronto and everyone stayed with us. They wanted to see CN tower and shop around but because they aren't familiar with the area, they took my mom with them as their guide. So listen to this, they go to the tower and buy tickets for everyone except my mom. My mom (then) had never been to the top of CN tower and she is a full time housewife (doesn't drive either / doesn't grocery shop or carry cash on her). So she basically stood there all by herself while they spent a good 1.5 hours up there. My mom felt insulted but didn't say anything. They just told her, baaji you live here, you can always go later but it is more important for us to go and we hope you don't mind. For $35? Really? And I personally spent about $200+ per kid when her kids stayed with us. I am not comparing the expenditure. My point is, if it was me, I wouldn't have minded so much but I take offense when my mom feels humiliated and used like that by our own family members...especially when I see her trying so hard to please the same people.
This made me really sad. It's so sad that people like this exist in the world. :(
I don't have any relatives in Pakistan so that's a plus point.
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That is so sad...... and then what ahppened? they divorcedher? :(
nah.....life went on.......
the bluff just needed to be called.
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Threatening to divorce because of that, I'm not surprised. My cousin was engaged to a guy who had dreams of going to Canada. When his 'plan' fell through, she called the engagement off.
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yep...we cave too. we accept the plastic purses and tacky costume jewellery including hair clips that you wouldn't be caught dead in.......and we take them to the top of the CN Tower for $35 a pop.........and to the ROM for $20/person.....and Wonderland for $50/person......and Marineland for $40/person.......and the Maiden of the Mist at Niagara Falls for $25/person etc, etc.......
Muzna will you show me and my family around when we visit Canada? Please? :D
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Muzna will you show me and my family around when we visit Canada? Please? :D
It would be an honour Umer.
Really.
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This is crazy, who in their right mind even asks someone to just buy something for them and send it without expecting to pay for it? Ridiculous.