My cousin send expensive things to his sisters every few months like i pads, latest mobile phone, laptops but he buys all on credit card. its their business but they are setting a trend or bench mark for others as i have SILs too and ofcourse after seeing all latest gadgets that my cousins get, they of course want too.
whereas me and my hubby has decided never to use credit card (after we paid off $40 000 credit card debit) and hubby says he has learnt the lesson hard way of excessive using CC. So we try to live on our income and my in laws know that we are struggling. We send eidi to SILs and they even tell us not to send as they understand our situation.
but recently middle SIL asked for Samaung G S3 and i asked hubby to send her watever it takes but as we could not post and no one we knew was going we asked her if we can send her money and she can buy herself.
whereas when mum goes to my younger chachoos house (they live in my granddads house), his wife is always in need of new kitchen accessories, even minor things like trays or dishes even spoons. they are not poor infact earning alot and have property as well. mum gets so angry as if someone comes for a visit and she doesnt have gud stuff at home, it will affect my dada jee’s izaat. so she ends up buy for her.
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This is ghar ghar ki kahani. Alot of desi ppl there feel entitled to demand, request, smooch off their relative abroad. Hubby would always say izzat ka mamila hai. I had really hold my ground on not being on credit and sending to Pakistan. It is a battle for the long run. His family knows how to get under his skin.