Expensive gifts from relatives, fair or unfair?

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Re: Expensive gifts from relatives, fair or unfair?

@Sehrysh

We do the exact same thing. Hire our own driver and never expect our hosts to chauffeur us around. We pay for dinner out at nicer restaurants and will order speciality food items home for everyone to eat. And then, we leave a sizeable amount of cash for the hosts so that even if their expenses went up, the cash offsets their increased expenses. And we also take small gifts for the relatives, but given the sheer number of relatives, the gifts are usually small items.

Yep, same here. My parents go more often so they bought a car and left it in my grandparents’ house. So when we go, we drive that and don’t expect others to take us places. My mom also arranges to hire a temp maid for the duration of the visit, so we are not a burden on anyone. And yes, we do leave cash as well.

Agree with the other posters that when the tables are turned and people come over for a visit to Canada, they have ridiculous expectations and if you don’t entertain their demands, it ends up being raayi ka pahaar aur pakistan tak complaints jaati hain so we end up caving in.