How soon after you knew would you share the information with your friends and classmates? One of my friend recently told me his wife’s expecting and it was the 5th week. Since I know him through school, it was rather surprising as I would have waited a bit more before telling people. So when did you guys share the news with say work/school friends?
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dont know ....have no idea abt it ...
lets see what others have 2 say .
Good question. In my opinion one can share the news as early as they want to once the pregnancy is confirmed. (6-7 wks even) Its personal choice. Some may however prefer to wait.
I am aware of many superstitions attached to disclosing a pregancy in Pakistan culture (to protect from evil eye or nazr or whatever). Call it weird but its also considered a taboo subject, like I had patients who would whisper when they said the word 'pregnant' I also know some families who lower their tones of voices when speaking about pregnancy and related subjects. Its a cultural thing more than anything :/
well I dont think I would tel it right away,
par who knows how I feel at that moment, maybe I am this happy that I am telling it every person I meet....
par as far as I think now, mere ghayaal se I would tell when atleast 2 either 3 months are over....
araam se bataoun ghi....
no rush to tell eveybody that I am pregnant..........
superstitions are they not?
would you not share the good news with people close to you once it is confirmed?
Some say that well wait until the end of teh first trimester just so it has a better chance of survival. But whats the motivation here, i.e. if the pregnancy ends somehow it will look bad? or do you tell ppl when the physical signs of its presence start becoming obvious?
My view is simple, I would prefer to start getting the prayers of friends and family sooner rather than latter.
We told everyone the same day my pregnancy
test came positive.:)
Although i did feel a bit odd facing the male
family members after that.
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superstitions are they not?
would you not share the good news with people close to you once it is confirmed?
Some say that well wait until the end of teh first trimester just so it has a better chance of survival. But whats the motivation here, i.e. if the pregnancy ends somehow it will look bad? or do you tell ppl when the physical signs of its presence start becoming obvious?
My view is simple, I would prefer to start getting the prayers of friends and family sooner rather than latter.
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Well I have but one thing to say to men when they dare to share their openions in such forums....... "No uterus, no openions".
I have to agree though.... i wouldn't waste a breath before telling my immediate family. But sometimes, When you have a strong family history of miscarriages , You are definitely hesitant before spreading the news.... even to your mother (sitting on the other side of the world hoping you'd be in the best of health always)..... lest she should be worried once again.... it is a huge emotional trauma planning and waiting for your baby only to end up in a miscarriage....!! Even thinking about it freaks me out.
And yes, in pakistan, a lot of people believe in saving the news till a bit later for the fear of envy and nazr. And according to Islam nazr does exist and it can damage...... and women probably aren't sure who they'd be making envious.
That makes perfect sense!:k:
I agree! 
i don't know about the whole superstition thing, but i think many ppl wait till the pregnancy is further, b/c there is always the possibility of a miscarriage, accident, etc. I don't think its a matter of embarassment. Its just a private matter, and i think it be sad to lose ur baby, and everyone kept asking abt it. I would tell my mom right away, but others...id wait a little
We told everyone as soon as the doctors confirmed the pregnancy.
Depends... close family (parents and brothers/sisters) were informed as soon as we knew, except for the third one, whom we kept as a surprise till our next visit to Pakistan.
Typically I follow a need-to-know doctrine for sharing information as that way we can avoid a lot of problems. So for others, they were informed once the condition was obvious. Surely, we gave them enough time to think of a good gift for the mother and later for the baby. :)
Hmmmm…am not married yet so no kids yet…hehehe!..however I do have an opinion on this issue:
I think that there is nothing wrong with making the information public once it is comfirmed that the woman is pregnant because 1)you can start getting blessings of near and dear ones around you sooner 2) you can start putting the minds of your near and dear ones in motion re: baby showers, etc. and lastly 3)well, the information is quicker off your chest than mulling over when and how to do it. No?
Perhaps I should have clarified. This is not a close friend or immediate family at all. Just a friend that I got to know recently - compare him to the person on the other end of the company building of a a 80 person firm. There is the usual hi, hello passing by but probably no more than one conversation of more then 5 mins per week and its generic.
Thanks fro clarifying hmcq. :) Ummm, in that case, honestly, this acquaintance then should not have been so eager to divulge this information to you, someone he barely knows save for an ocassional hi, hello, goodbye. He should've used more tact like maybe nonchallantly telling you about his wife's pregnancy in a few months or so rather than jumping the proverbial gun.
well, we told our immediate family and friends as soon as the results came positive... but my saas said that we shouldnt tell our relatives so soon.. so we waited until the 3rd month was over.
*Originally posted by gooni_2000: *
*Well I have but one thing to say to men when they dare to share their openions in such forums....... "No uterus, no openions". *
yawn I am married so this is the opinion of myself as well as my wife.
Thanks for your "openion" anyways :P
*And according to Islam nazr does exist and it can damage...... and women probably aren't sure who they'd be making envious. *
Agreed but Nazr can affect something at any given time right? and as I said again, I would rather have the prayers of friends and family early on.
Islam talks about nazr but also talks about the power of prayer.
How would someone not know that when they make the news public after 3-4 months that something can not go wrong then, or later..
why dont we just hide the kids and not tell anyone at all :D
It really depends on situations… we had a and still have risk pregnency so we only told few so that we can tell when baby stablised.. and what about sex of the baby.. many people hide that too.. did I revealed anything 
NAzr and prayers cancel each other out. I just asked my pandit and he told me. The doctor however said that you should wait for 12 weeks or the first trimester, as it is during this period that the pregnancy has the higest risk factor.
Chaltahai
I still dont see the logic, so if you lose the kid in the first 12 weeks, its done..A couple knows they are pregnant, share the info with friends and family and if the kid does not make it, thats what was meant to be.
What is the logic here of not telling..having people be happy for you only to tell them later it did not work out? or what.
If i tell ppl and it does not work out, the same people can provide the type of emotional support one may need after losing a kid.
Because the surity aspect is much lower in the first trimester the tradition is to not tell too many people. Having support is crucial, but expectations are hard to live down.