Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

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Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

@redvelvet

Novelty is going to wear off either way…sooner or later.

It can’t be so easily said that the romance will last longer in one relationship than another.

The degree of “specialness” of romantic gestures in either marriage can’t be so easily determined either.

A relationship…x number of months/years…down the road is not going to be the same as it was in the very beginning. It might get better…it might get worse. Much of it has to do with the efforts of the couple as opposed to how they got married. I’m not trying to generalize…but when I look in my family…it’s the love marriages that have been more successful/healthy than the arranged ones. I’m just sharing an observation, not saying that one type is better than the other.

Romance is a broad word and can include a variety of gestures that reflect your partner’s consideration/love for you. It is not confined to long drives and sizzling passion, etc.
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This thread was about the dynamics of arranged and love marriages…it was NOT about desis born/living in Pak or those that were born and raised outside of the motherland. It shouldn’t even have gone in that direction. One has absolutely zero control over where they’re going to be born and where they’ll grow up. If we’re going to get upset at someone else for being “narrow-minded”…then stereotyping ANY group does not reflect an “open” mind either. I know that we’re all guilty of doing that from time to time…I’m not saint myself**.

I m really surprised to hear this from u .. yaar