Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

[Paheli00]

Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

@ZareenKhan

Anyways, I’ll try to explain the reason why i think it is so…well** it’s like the more you know a person, the more frank you are with them and you tend to take them
for granted**. You have done the flowers, cards, movies, going on long drives and all that bit even before marriage so i would assume that they won’t hold that much
importance after marriage. Where as, in an arrange marriage its like a process you get to know each other first and then these small gestures perhaps hold more meaning
and help you to build your bond stronger.

More “asssumptions” huh? Be careful…you don’t want to became behaving like us foreign desis!

On a more serious note, now THIS is what I was looking/hoping for! You stated your view earlier (ie:romance in arranged marriages are “more special”) but never mentioned WHY.

I actually agree with you with the red part. You’re absolutely right in saying that the more time passes by…it’s very easy to settle into a “routine” and take the person you married for granted. HOWEVER…this can happen in every marriage (love or arranged). Even in an arranged marriage…as time goes by…once kids enter the picture, many couples take each others for granted.

But I don’t think the above effects how “special” the romance is that’s experienced by newlywed couples. The romance experienced by the couples is special regardless of how they got married (love or arranged). I think its unfair to label one as more special versus another.