Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?
Not everything is so black and white. You can’t just make blanket statements in a one size fits all fashion…Just because someone has “done all that” prior to getting married does not make it any less special or significent afterwards. Also, there are plenty of other “romantic” gestures that take place between married couples who had a “love marriage”. When your significent knows instinctively what you like/want/need without you having to say a word..that is romantic. For me, I “dated” my husband over year before we got married (no physical intimacy before you assume that) so on our wedding night, when he helped me unpin the heavy dupatta and take off the jewelry, ***that ***was romantic…On our honeymoon, when he bought a bag of birdseed for us to feed the pidgeons, without me mentioning it…that was romantic…it was no different then had our marriage been arranged and we did not know eachother.
14 years later (mashallah) you want to know what is truly romantic? When one of the kids is in the bathroom and needs their tushy washed and yells “maaammaaaa…i’m done, can you waaash me…” he gets up first and says “tum rehanay do, may dhekta hoon”…now that is romantic…
Please don’t think I’m picking on you, because I’m not. I’m just trying to show you that it truly makes no difference if you knew your spouse prior to marriage. Once you share your home/life with somebody, it’s all the same level playing field.