Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

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Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

@Paheli00

I don’t know about others…but the bold part is the “confusing” part for me. Let’s say I marry my husband after dating him…and we have romance in our relationship before signing the nikahnama. You have a totally arranged marriage and experience no romance with your husband before signing the nikahnama. According to your statement above, the romance in your marriage is “more special” compared to mine. But WHY? I guess I must be pretty stupid (to put it bluntly) but I completely fail to see the logic behind it on my own. And so far you haven’t explained it so I guess I’ll just keep on wondering.

So you stating that you believe that romance in an arranged marriage is “more special” than love marriages isn’t an “assumption” on your part?

I guess I’m one of the narrow minded duffers here! But to me…no…your original statement regarding romance in love marriage wasn’t that clear. And you stated an ASSUMPTION regarding love marriages that you still have not explained. And yes, I agree that you don’t “owe” anyone an explanation for your views. Of course there is romance in love marriages before the actual marraige. But that wasn’t the original statement that got all this started.

Thank you Paheli!! This whole thread has confused the crap out of me!!!