Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

[Paheli00]

Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?

@ZareenKhan

actually i’d like to believe that the romance would be even more special in an arranged married cuz unlike love marriage, u have not been there done all that romance b4.

I don’t know about others…but the bold part is the “confusing” part for me. Let’s say I marry my husband after dating him…and we have romance in our relationship before signing the nikahnama. You have a totally arranged marriage and experience no romance with your husband before signing the nikahnama. According to your statement above, the romance in your marriage is “more special” compared to mine. But WHY? I guess I must be pretty stupid (to put it bluntly) but I completely fail to see the logic behind it on my own. And so far you haven’t explained it so I guess I’ll just keep on wondering.

@ZareenKhan

They talk about being all “open minded” and how desis back home are so backward and what not but seriously atleast reading the stuff most of the “foreign” desis write, i am just left thinking that they are quite narrow minded. It’s just so damn hard for them to take a contrasting opinion and its not like they will be up for a good argument, for them their opinion= the truth and everything else is nonsense. And i must say they are great in assuming things, reading between the lines and eventually taking just negativity out of whatever is being said. I don’t think i owe anyone any explaination because my post was pretty explainatory but i guess we have alot of duffers here on this forum so maybe reposting my post will help them understand it better;

I am sure if you are in love/relationship before marriage, there would be romance between the two of you hence my ^ comment based on it. .

So you stating that you believe that romance in an arranged marriage is “more special” than love marriages isn’t an “assumption” on your part?

I guess I’m one of the narrow minded duffers here! But to me…no…your original statement regarding romance in love marriage wasn’t that clear. And you stated an ASSUMPTION regarding love marriages that you still have not explained. And yes, I agree that you don’t “owe” anyone an explanation for your views. Of course there is romance in love marriages before the actual marraige. But that wasn’t the original statement that got all this started.