Re: Existence of a Good Girl
^ yo, if your past brought sorrow and tears to your life then reform your actions and learn to move on.
Re: Existence of a Good Girl
I'm not talkin about sorrow and tears here ... everyone has their own probs and thats fine ... i'm just saying if a person be it a guy or grl tries to do everything properly and do hte right thing i.e. islamically by tellin the guy to send his parents over instead of all out dating and meeting him here and there with frnds and the guy turns out to be a gold digger and goes for someone rich how is it the grls fault ... i've seen this happen more than once and i don't think its the grl's fault and i just feel bad when such nice grls are labelled grls with a history whn they didn't even do anything wrong ... and thats my only issue
Re: Existence of a Good Girl
so what xactly is a "good" girl vs a "bad" girl?
i know girls who partied AND did well in school and are working hard at establishing their careers. I know girls who did not have boyfriends or went to parties but still were up to no good.
lines are blurring and there is no "good" girl or "bad" girl. even a "bad" girl will be good to some and vie versa.
Re: Existence of a Good Girl
snazzy, awesome posts :k:
if ur not already taken… someone is gonna wanny try to grab u after those awesome posts
^ lol. This prompted me to read her posts. Big shocker. She also thinks all desi men are under-achieving womanizers. No wonder she fits right in with this crowd.
Snazzy, One question. So because 50% of men in MSA in your school were under-achieving womanizers... somehow that makes you conclude this is universal? Secondly, I am pretty familiar with the uni scene around the silicon valley. How would you explain if I had completely the opposite experience. All girls were under-acheivers - and had regular boy friends (so did the guys so not putting them down for that). Almost all of the guys ended up landing good jobs (intel, qualcom, microsoft etc.) whereas the girls ended up picking dumb majors to begin with (social sciences, psychology etc.) as they couldnt handle the workload in anything that required addition/multiplication etc.
The girls who graduated are either struggling to find jobs in their fields or have given up and are looking for husbands so they can be stay at home moms. How do you explain the discrepancy?
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@bigdaddy: I don't think many people disagree that girls are more likely to follow the "good girl" path because they're under pressure to do so. People just have that "boys will be boys" attitude and turn the other way for guys. It's true in almost all cultures to varying degrees.
I agree with you that in general, girls tend to take less competitive majors in college. I think you misunderstood my point though, which was that the more highly educated/smarter + "good" girls have a harder time finding a match because there are fewer, equally-educated, and modest guys that are available. I did not mean to say that girls generally study better than guys. AND I was talking about the combination of morally good + hard-working in my MSA, not just hardworking/smart - because many guys were smart, they just partied/serial dated/etc.
I talked about my college experience as an example. And perhaps my experience has made me biased and maybe I subconsciously choose to remember the situations that confirm my perspective while not considering the cases that go against it. But I do want to see others' perspective. So I just wonder from your experience: what was the proportion of "good girls" + smart to "good guys" + smart? I said 90:50 in my MSA, but maybe it's a little less. Maybe your numbers are different and that's why you have a different perspective and maybe it's your job to enlighten us ;)
Edit: and @bigdaddy, I went back to see which post you're talking about where I went on a guy-bashing tangent. And I apologize :) I really do know of some very good guys and don't think they're all "under-achieving womanizers".
^They've kept true to their morals and religion and they studied/worked hard. They want a husband who also has a clean history and studied/worked hard. After they're level on that plane, they can consider compatibility etc.
Do you think that the girls who are serial daters and partied and drank all during college are the ones that are demanding the pious husbands? obviously not! Look, i;m from the US, and was part of a small MSA in college. 90% of the girls in the MSA were very modest, didn't party, etc. 50% of the guys in the MSA had white girlfriends (currently or past) or had pics all over facebook of their frat party attendances. even if they didn't drink there, I'm SURE they ogled and danced with the scantily clad girls. and this is IN THE MSA. also, in the MSA, many of the girls went to med school, law school, pharmD and PhD. none of the guys did (so far that i know).
I disagree completely
explanation will be given in the evening