I’d like to hear some. Must apply to this day and age. Inspired by comment in another thread.
warning: topic comes with rough rebuttle by PCG
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LOL
I'll takes my chances
Someone else to do the spring cleaning and the floors. If they can work and contribute to the house also, hey, I'll be her bestest friend :) I also figure I am one step closer to the 2 husband theory I have if he has 2 wives, he really can't complain then.........
c'mon, bring it on PCG!!!!!
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I know you’re doing it just to have a fight. 
I want real reasons.
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Cos God says I can 
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WHY does God say you can? (btw, lets work on one girl first, before we go running after more ;) )
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Ah, I didn't read this thread before I posted in the other one. Sowwyy
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post 'em here na!
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Ummmm, I thought those were real reasons and I am serious about the 2 husbands sigh ok, not really, but that is always what I say to him when he brings it up. Kind of makes him say it was maybe a bad idea :D
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Why don’t you copy/paste them here. After all it is your thread.
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She can't have kids. that's one reason i can think of...
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Because of some real majboori of a guy. As we know in some families there is a tradition of family marriages. Doesn't matter if a guy is 11 y/o and a girl is 25 years of age.
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^ huh?? tha tmakes no sense 
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Well it happens in pathan families mostly. If there is no older guy left in the family then they marry their daughters with younger ones. And if there is no guy left at all neither young nor old then Quran se shadi hoti hai :)
So when the 11 y/o kid grows up he feels the need of a young wife or atleast wife of his age...
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omggggggg
i heard of quran shaadis…those are so wrong!!! 
that’s so barbaric, making ur women stay single their entire life 
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i don understand y do ppl repeat the same mistake again
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Scenario 1: 11 year old married off to older girl.
Rebuttle: Tradition has been going on for generations. The generation of the 11 year old’s parents went thru the same thing. Did those wise old men not think of marrying OUTSIDE their families? Primary reason because Allah encourages marrying among other tribes. Oh right, they don’t know what the Quran says. 
Still, there is no excuse there.
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Scenario 2: She can’t have children.
Rebuttle: Taking your behind to an adoption agency. The number of orphans in the muslim world that need a good family - wow. Its scary to imagine the number. Also, think of all the muslim orphan children now in SouthEast Asia from the Tsunami who need good muslim families to take care of them.
Oh right, but its so manly to take on another wife, just so that you can have offspring with your own darn genetic make-up, and let the poor Indonesian muslim kids be taken by Judeo-Christian families and let them grow up thinking Jesus is God and Muslims are pagans!
For those men, I hope their homologous chromosomes undergo massive deletions due to crossing over!!!
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*One family friends of ours was married to a woman who he had never met. He is PhD who studied & lived in England for quiet some time, teaches at a top Paki university and has a very socially liberal lifestyle. She is matric-pass and the first time she ever lived in the city was when she married him. On top of that after a few years they found out that she cannot have children. Well, he could have easily divorced her and married someone else, a practice more socially acceptable in serially monogamous cultures, but that would mean she has to go back to village where no one will marry her and will be on her fathers income and afterwards will have to rely on her brothers & sisters and die a very lonely life. Instead he went into a polygamous arrangement where he married someone a little more inclined to his concept of life and had children. The two wives live in a duplex and the children call the first wife 'bari ammi' and respect her like an elder. She takes interest in their lives as well. *
These people are your friends, so this might hit hard. Please dont take it personally.
If he knew that there would be compatibility problems, he should have been responsible on the onset and not have married her in the first place. In fact, he should have been a gentlemen if he was that concerned about her marital status, and helped her find a suitable husband. If the family wanted him and only him, then he really should have rationally told them that there is no way that he'd be comfortable marrying someone who is so different.
I've seen plenty of such guys who, to avoid the situation, get married abroad and then come home with a wife. Oops, then he's taken. The family can't bully him around so much anymore.
The other example is that of the person who used to take care of the garden in front of our apartments. He went home to attend the funeral of his elder brother who had died in an accident and then extended his leave for another few months. We later found out that he married his widowed sister-in-law who was at least 10-15 years older than him. Trust me, he didn't do it for money or sex.
Again, he could have helped her out financially. He could have let her move into his home with them and accepted her as a sister - given her some separate quarters. He could have helped her find a job to become self-sufficient. Why marriage? Even in such extreme cases, marriage seems to be an unnecessary step.
Man, in that case, when I hit 30 and I dont have any prospects in marriages, maybe I should go knock on the doors of my beautiful 2 male cousins - probably already married by then - and ask them "mere se please shaadi karlo - otherwise I'll die in poverty".
Right...
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^ Thanks!
Your view of this topic is probably in context of societies where women are generally financially independent but that is not the case for the whole world. In many societies around the world women are financial liability of men throughout their lives, first they depend on their father and then on their husband and then on their sons. Trust me, the day women start getting paid the same money as men working in the same field across the world, you will see a lot less polygamy, a lot more divorces and a lot more women being killed in wars and accidents related to fishing, mining and fire fighting professions.
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What is wrong with women being killed in wars and accidents related to fishing (
… fishing… ? ) ? At least these women are trying to make it out on their own rather than invading some other woman’s territory and causing mass unhappiness. Did Khadija bibi not die in resistance? -
Isn’t it high time now, that in Pakistan, if we can start building high rises, and malls, and charge 80,000 rupees for a friggin gharaara that you couldn’t even pass off as your wedding dress (you better believe it
), that we start empowering women to be economically self-sufficient?
Its sad that these women FEEL like their only option is marriage - and that too to someone who is already married. Why not marry the woman who is widowed off to another guy who is also widowed? Makes it even?