It's unreasonable to think that your spouse NEVER liked someone prior to marrying you. Everyone has a PAST......and while in the back of our minds, we acknowledge this to be a normal thing........it's not something we like to think about. It's a rather unsavory thought.
The important thing is that if you have a HAPPY MARRIAGE and your husband is faithful to you, why even think about his past or bring it up for that matter? It's one of those things, that if you come to know about it, it'll bug you. Now if your hubby hasn't moved on from an old flame, then that is a concern. But everyone has a past whether one chooses to talk about it or not.....and it would be a shame to let insecurities based on the past destroy a healthy marriage.
Personally i wouldnt reali giv a damn if my wife had any relationship before or not, however if that past relationship effects our future or present than i would giv a BIG DAMN
Although before getting married i would ask my wife to share any past experience with me that she feel she should share! Coz it realy does hurt a lot when u find out certain things from others! And btw i would do the same though will let her know everything so that it doesnt affect us in future
PS: I do not like those girls who change bf everyday! i hope i dont get to marry such a girl!
For all those people saying past is okay so long as it doesn't affect the future, i.e. marriage - what exactly do you guys mean?? What/how will the past effect the marriage in a way that's unacceptable to you?
I had smacked my hubby - super hard on the head - when he just gazed at a girl in the car - coming from the opposite direction... and my kids in the back seat were like haaawwwwww mom just hit dad.
LOL
seriously how would he feel if I gazed at a man like that?
So I really think - if I know about the ex - I would then have to make sure that she lives by the ocean, so some day she can drown quickly - of course by accident.
Oh, well that's a given. Of course both parties have to be monogamous.
But what if she/he keeps making references to their ex or what if they keep comparing the present partner with the previous one, isn't that a little uncool, too?
For all those people saying past is okay so long as it doesn't affect the future, i.e. marriage - what exactly do you guys mean?? What/how will the past effect the marriage in a way that's unacceptable to you?
Moi is very curious.
Lets say for example somone's wife had a past, a dodgy relationship and her hubby is kind of strict or she doesnt want her hubby to find out abt the past
And suddenly one day her ex comes to her life again and starts threating her i.e. he will tell her hubby abt the relationship, start saying those filmy dialogues "main tumhara ghar ujaar doon ga" etc etc The girl will seriously land in some kind of trouble...u get what i mean??
Thats jus one possibilty i guess, many other things can happen u never knw :@:
Oh, well that's a given. Of course both parties have to be monogamous.
But what if she/he keeps making references to their ex or what if they keep comparing the present partner with the previous one, isn't that a little uncool, too?
Sucks with a capital S. These skeletons should stay buried.
Oh, well that's a given. Of course both parties have to be monogamous.
But what if she/he keeps making references to their ex or what if they keep comparing the present partner with the previous one, isn't that a little uncool, too?
It's more than uncool. It's so frickin tactless and insensitive. Why would a married partner KNOWINGLY do that? Shouldn't u know better? Kind of like never telling your wife she's looks adorably chubby when she asks, "do i look fat in this?" Any response other than no is not gonna work. So, do you think of your ex? "No" Was she prettier than me? "No" Would u like to go back to her? "No"
It can affect in many ways seriously! In my explaination i said if her hubby is strict than hes obviously gona loose it after finding out and that would be the last thing she wud want to happen!
PS: I dont watch bollywood, but i have heard some stories (real one) where past relationship can affect in many ways!
I was kidding about the “no” response to every question. And I was serious about a guy knowing better than to compare his wife to an ex and making her feel bad. And i was serious about the importance of being in a sincere marriage.
I was kidding about the "no" response to every question. And I was serious about a guy knowing better than to compare his wife to an ex and making her feel bad. And i was serious about the importance of being in a sincere marriage.
Clarified?
Let's not be soo biased and say both partners should know better and not compare.
She forgot how to swim… a severe storm rocked her boat…the current was too strong…shark attack…an “ACCIDENT”.
