Ex GF or BF

Lifestyle Relationships
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Would it still bother u if ur partner ever had a gf or bf before u, even though they dont have anything between them no more.

i personally cant take it, i think people who make gf or bf every other year or so on, can never be sincere with anyone not even to the person they get married to.

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I would be ok with it if he was in a meaningful relationship with that person.

I would not be ok with it if he was into the dating game.....going out with girls left and right.

Timepass - November 2012
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I mean to find the right person u dont have to go through hundreds of people
if things are not working between u it doesnt mean u leave them and move on to the next one. if the person is seroius abt the relationship in first place they would try to sort out things not go and look for in search of new gf or bf

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Your input clearly has two parts: One saying about the partner heaving an EX and second about the ppl who switch the gf/bf like a new car model.

Umm..to me it will be a lil hard but eventually ok if my partner had an EX. But that should be "an" ex not a bunch of EX(es)

However I would like to know it before time ................otherwise it really hurts a lot

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You know marriage is very complex relationship in today's world. No matter what, both are human and both can't deal with a fact (not for log) that someone they are being intimate with was intimate with someone else. So why play with the fire, keep your ex life in a safe deposit box and lose the key...

Some will object it saying, what if they hear it from someone else? well were you that stupid to publish your personal life that everyone knows the details ? Even if they hear it from somewhere, you can always deny that......lot better than confessing it and not leaving a way out ....

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SIGH
But you got to see if the person is worth it.
More important is how you partner looks at that past relation.

Timepass - November 2012
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true :k:

a marriage broke down because the guy wouldn’t stop seeing his ex’s after the marriage and the girl was heartbroken because they would flaunt it in her face

it only lasted 1 month - maybe even less

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i agree...it's best not to dig up old graves.

however, in todays world...there is a thing called sexually transmitted diseases. if he was promiscuous then he should either have good enough sense to get tested (and make sure he is clean) or tell his potential partner about his promiscuity so she can make an informed decision about whether or not she wants to pursue a relationship with him.

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It sounds logical but you think a man would say that to his to be wife ? I don't think so.... Never in a million years...

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paki american ...this world and todays men have changes a lot. u need to see n understand that.

no i doesn't botter me or him...n it shouldn't unless that person is still in love with their ex.

Timepass - November 2012
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Just wait for few years after you get married.

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I wouldnt have a problem with him having an ex but would take certain factors into consideration

As long as it was an EX and I dont have to worry about her trying to stalk me or run me over.

The amount of time in his past relationship and me...I dont want to be a rebound.

The way he deals with it now...is he okay with it or still bitter?

If the man has grown out of it, why not?

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What happened and ended before I got married isn't really much of an issue unless it gets carried into the marriage. I've seen many men having multiple relationships before marriage making the most sincere husbands.

Trivia Event!!
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I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as he has gotten over and doesn't have any feelings for the Ex. I would rather invest my energy into the present and future. With that said, I don't agree with the whole concept of dating, having boyfriend/girl friend before marriage. It's wrong, unfair to your partner, and a major sin.

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As far as i know, i think everyone has a past...and you knowing about is better rather then not knowing about it at all...i don't think i will be able to take it either but when i think about him not telling me and if someday he gets to meet her again yada yada...i would be a bigger problem for me so i think i'd rather know about it before hand.

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I'd argue the opposite - it's far better if he was with several women who meant nothing to him than one woman who he left his heart with. One woman before me who meant something is much harder to get rid of.

Agreed. As they say, players make the best husbands. Not promoting players by the way, people.

When you're in love with him, even a quick glance he gives a waitress while paying the bill pisses you off. So yes, of course, past relationships bother everyone.

But, they aren't road-blockers and shouldn't be. To doubt their sincerity because of the past is very unfair. Everyone makes mistakes and bad judgments and it's part of life. No one should be held accountable for their past they've clearly put behind them.

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I'm ok with it...I think anything more than 3 exes is too much for me though (I don't agree with casual dating).

In a way having an ex and your significant other having an ex can actually be a good thing as it makes you appreciate the person you are with so much more (especially if your past relationships were rocky or ended negatively).

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Some of the posts have turned the 'ex GF or BF' thread into 'ex multiple GFs'. People learn from experience, most of the people go through bondings and relationships, some are meaningful while others are not. Ideally, it helps them mature and put things into perspective.

Normally it should not be an issue unless it is affecting the marriage i.e. old relationships popping up again. Whether its from the man's end or the woman's, its twisted either way. Past relationships should stay in the past, and one should not sulk over them.

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I don't think I can handle knowing about the ex.

I had smacked my hubby - super hard on the head - when he just gazed at a girl in the car - coming from the opposite direction... and my kids in the back seat were like haaawwwwww mom just hit dad.

LOL

seriously how would he feel if I gazed at a man like that?

So I really think - if I know about the ex - I would then have to make sure that she lives by the ocean, so some day she can drown quickly - of course by accident.

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^ which implies that men should just zip it when asked very sweetly about the ex'es.

And men have a thing for machines, structures, gadgets, and well, chicks. Its inbuilt, cant help it. Why cant you let them be?