surprised to know about such modern muslim weddings...May Allah guide them to the right path...amen
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No It is not ok for muslims to serve alcohol at a event...just like its not ok for us to sell it. in a way u ll be permoting it and thats not allowed....
i understand what ur saying PSquared abt honoring the mix cultures in our communites but...i not see them serving us halal food. or pakistani food...thats just my opinion please dont mind me.
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^all that being said, i still think it's fine to serve it. i guess i'm different, i was raised in a different culture, many of the guests that attended my wedding drink so no one had an issue with it.
at the same, i don't care who drinks and who doesn't. i dont tell people waht they should or should not be doing and i dont want people telling me. it's also not ok for muslims to gossip but people are always snickering about the bride and how maybe her lipliner is not right, or her dress looks bad, or the food is awful, right at the wedding. i say, just enjoy your wedding and plan it the way you want it.
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^ agree with u, and also follow similar believes...but religiously its not ok to serve it
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psquared, i think its best to do what you feel you'd be comfortable with and what honours you and your family. after all, at the end of the day, its your wedding. and its important that you don't have regrets about the way it was done.
as i mentioned, the hubs is gora, but we didn't have alcohol at our wedding even though 1/3 of our guests, not to mention my inlaws, were gora too. we simply didn't feel it was appropriate and so we told everyone we weren't serving alcohol. and it really wasn't a big deal- its one night. no one is being asked to give up alcohol entirely.
and we gave the inlaws the option of paying for it if they really wanted it, but they opted not to do that, so we didn't have any.
we had all sorts of pop, juice and punches, and we had a special tropical one that we toasted with during speeches, and no one minded. everyone was too busy having a good time and mingling. alcohol isn't a necessity for each meal for the gora public, and i'm sure your gora friends will understand and support you if you feel alcohol isn't going to be appropriate at your wedding.
as sumo says, there are tasteful ways of serving alcohol and then there's in your face ways- so if you do decide to go with that, go tasteful! :)
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PsQ, if it was up to me, and even if i had alot of gora/nonMuslim friends...i'd never serve alcohol at my wedding. If some people feel that they cannot enjoy a wedding or an event without any alcohol....well that's their loss, not mine......
One of my uncles is married to a Caucasian and they didn't serve alcohol in their wedding, with mutual agreement, even though a good number of guests were non-muslims. The guests knew that my uncle is a Muslim and many Muslims don't consume alcohol, they understood and nobody ever complained. The wedding was absolute joy to attend.
A few of my friends have immediate family who married to non-muslims and they decided not to serve alcohol either. Nobody seemed to mind.
I've been to one shadi which was held in Karachi where they did have an open bar at mayun/mehndi and reception. The family is one of those who would kill in order to be counted amongst so-called non-traditional/liberal/unorthodox category. By the end of the night, many, many guests were drunk to the point of creating ruckus. It was one of the most distasteful and unpleasent weddings I've ever been.
Personally, I'd not serve alcohol in my wedding because I don't drink, my parents don't drink nor does my extended family, I'd always prefer a husband who doesn't drink and guests who would be invited will be close enough to know and understand this.
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Yeah I guess I wont be serving it. I think you are right SGC...gora people dont drink every single day. They can sacrifice it one day for me!!!!
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^^Exactly..and the thing is that alcohol isn't the sole factor for guests to have a good, enjoyable, and memorable time at a wedding..
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^ (unless they're a bunch of high schoolers from the boonies :p)
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^ LOL
Is it me or does non-alcoholic champagne taste like crap?
^ LOL
Is it me or does non-alcoholic champagne taste like crap?
Might as well drink water and say it's champagne. Never got the point of drinks like Odouls.
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^as opposed to real champagne? haha. yeh i think non-alcoholic beer also tastes bad.
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what xactly IS non-alcoholic champage/beer? i mean istn that the main ingredient? :aq:
Fruit juice, or some kind of other silly horrible tasting drink. In Mideast countries they sell this “Mousse” and “Barbican” stuff which is supposed to taste like bad beer. That stuff tastes like puke. Put some daal in water, and then drink that water. Same thing.
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^ LOL at daal in water! ahahahahahhaha!
sara, its basically just fizzy grape juice.
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^all that being said, i still think it's fine to serve it. i guess i'm different, i was raised in a different culture, many of the guests that attended my wedding drink so no one had an issue with it.
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Just curious Sumorani, I thought you were married in Karachi, isnt alcohol illegal in Pakistan?
Just curious Sumorani, I thought you were married in Karachi, isnt alcohol illegal in Pakistan?
No it's not. There are proper procedures of obtaining it legally.
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Oh ok wow, didnt know! So can you get it in stores and restaurants too?
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I have been to a wedding where in the venue there were multiple parties at the same night. Alcohol wasnt served at the wedding...BUT several guests somehow snuck into another party and got drinks and some were loaded. I found it ridiculous.
However I don't mind the dancing at weddings, makes for a fun night. I myself am too shy to get up and dance with everyone, but it makes for great entertainment :) At my brother's wedding, everyone tried their best to get me to dance.....but i lasted few minutes only.