Ever heard of this Rasam?

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I was just wondering if someone has heard some sort of rasam where the bride n groom stay at the bride’s parents house after the walima?

and where does it originate from?

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Yeah, I've heard of it. No idea about its origins but my cousin did this after his wedding.

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we have this rasam in our family, both maternal and paternal. don't know about the origin. but its like that after walima both bride and groom stays at bride's home and the next day guy side came to bride's place and take bride and groom with them which is called maklawa or choothi.

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^what Sheal said.

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we call it a muklava...basically its just daughter coming home for first time after rukhsati. from what i've seen its not realy done here very much, b/c weddings do usually happen on the weekend.s..but its practiced more in pak.

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Well I haven’t heard hat both the bride and groom come to her parents house…but in our family the bride goes and stays at her parents for a few days after the walima…its called a ‘bathwaira’ :aq:

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we have rasam that after valime both bride and groom went to brides home, stay there a night and the next evening the guy family came there for a dinner and bride and groom went back with them to grooms home. this rasam is called maklawa or choothi.

i think its clear now :confused:

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LOL Sheal i wasnt doubting what you said. what i meant was that i agree with what you said about the rasam, thats how it happens in my family too :)

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:P oops sorry. i thought i am unable to explain well :P

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yeah. in punjabi families, the bride and groom come home either the night of walima or the next day (ideally) and stay the night, have dinner and then breakfast the next morning. that's called muklawa.

some of my friends from karachi told me that in their families the bride goes back to her parent's house to stay over for a week. the groom doesn't come with her. that's called choothi i think.

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i thought chothi was when the brides' family went to pick her up from the groom's house the morning after the shaadi... i remember doing it for my phoppo a looooong time ago. she was wearing this gorgeous gharara.

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its called 'muklawa'...and i have always seen it in my family...and i also had it when i was married...:0
not sure about its origin though....

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I just remembered the reason; i was told this is done is so the dulhan isnt taken away from her family all of a sudden. This is supposedly a way to ease the leaving part i guess :(

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In biharis (people in the Indian State of Bihar, some of whom migarated to Pakistan), teh bride and groom went and stayed for 10 days at the bride's place. Nowadays, they don't stay for the full 10 days but a few days as time permits and get gifts etc as well.

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patta nahin IRA....in my case it did not ease anything...it made it even worse....:(
i did not cry that much on my rukhsati but i was bawling like a baby on the muklawa.....:(....
and so was my mom....ammmmmiiiiiiii..............:(

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There are lot of versions of this rasam. In my family only the bride goes to her parents and groom doesnt.
one of our neighbours had this rasam in her family. after valima bride foes to her parents, next day groom brings her back, next day she goes to her parents again, next day groom brings her back. This goes on for 10 days. the reason behind this one is that seeing her parents every other day would make her feel better and she ll have better time adjusting with the new life by not just going and start living at in laws at once

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kiya kiya rasmein hain...I don't believe this! I'd really like 2 know if these senseless rasmein or what ya call it was practised at the time of our prophet (saw).

you stay at the brides house with your bride, because you love her and she wants to spend the last days with her family, not because this is a tradition in our culture and we have to fulfill this rassam, what is this?

The bride stays after the walima for 1 week at her parents house, the groom doesn't come along, what is that? Isliye shaadi ki hai? Yaan pehle ruksathi karni hai, phir bride ko dekhna, milna, blablabla, to nikah/shaadi kisliye ki hai?

It shouldn't be Rukhsati, it should be Rukh Saathi...

Culture or rassmon ne to barbaad kiya hai Dunya ko...

Ek Afghani rassam hai, the husband takes a tissue and takes the hymen of his whife as a proof of virginity and shows it to his family members the next day, now what the hell is this, tell me!!!?

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Well this CHoHtii Rasam does happens in our family . But neither bride nor both stay at night . They just come with Groom’s family and leave happily after the dinner ..

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Numb there is nothing wrong with culture, as long as it doesnt go against the teachings of your religions. For the husband and wife to go spend time with her family after marriage, if it makes them happy then why not? If someone doesnt want to do it, then fine dont, not the end of the world. I never heard of this rasm before I just read all this and so I didnt do it. But it does sound sweet

As for the Afghan rasm–thats just so very totally disgusting and wrong :smack:

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Our rasmein are out of fun... at least they're not something ghatya and low like that.