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^Probably of Indian origin.. I remember telling my parents "there's no way I'm doing that!"
I would think it's unIslamic as you've implied Sehrysh..
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Ehl, it was the same with us with one little exception. When my family came to Canada, slowly we got accustomed to serving food ourselves. I don’t know if it was the moving that made us change, or we just grew older and started doing it ourselves. We still wait for our parents to fill their plate first. So, guests > parents > children
We try to tidy up the house before dad gets home from work.
Someone always goes to the door to greet dad, even though he has a key and lets himself in. If it’s grocery day, we take the bags from his hands. It’s rude to sit on the sofa and watch him bring everything in.
This one we are not so good at but mom always reminds us that when someone (dad, bhai, sis etc) comes home, you should ask them if they want water.
When a male family member comes into the room/house, if I am laying down, I’ll sit up properly and just make sure to adjust my clothes if they’re ruffled or whatever. I don’t wear very fitted clothes at home, but if ever I am, I wear a cardigan on top or use a dupatta.
I used to call my sis ‘appi’ but don’t do it anymore. She is 1.5 years older than me. My parents always insisted that my brothers call us appi. But they never listened. :hehe:
In my family, we try to use ‘app’ to address other people, even those younger than us. It’s just more respectful.
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Are dils expected to touch their mil's feet when going to their inlaws house for the first time? I saw it when I was really really young..
Not exactly touching the feet, but bowing the head enough so the elder who is sitting can put hand on the head of the younger person for blessings. At that time, I have seen the younger person touching the knee (not feet) of the elder person out of respect
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:nono: never seen any kind of touching the knee or feet.
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Not exactly touching the feet, but bowing the head enough so the elder who is sitting can put hand on the head of the younger person for blessings. At that time, I have seen the younger person touching the knee (not feet) of the elder person out of respect
^ That is the whole, buzurg shafqat se sar pe haat rakhna and dua-ein dayna.
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^ Never heard of that. That would be akin to the Hindu custom of touching an elder's feet. I have known of some families to welcome a new bride by having her wet her feet in a bowl/container of water and then the in-laws sprinkle the water around the home. It's considered "auspicious." That being said, I'm pretty sure that's cultural and not religious. The whole touching an elder's feet would almost be akin to prostrating before a mortal and would be considered shirk, at least in my family.
You've never heard of "qadam-bosi"? I'm surprised.
Bet @khattichic would know....apparently it's not uncommon in the hyderabadi community to touch the elder's feet.
And this is aside from the "pait main mundi daal" which is lowering of the head to receive the "shafqat ka haat" wala motion.....
This used to be a practice in my naniyaal but you were only supposed to touch your own mother's feet. I do suspect the origins of this tradition are cultural and the justification imposed was that Jannat lies at the feet of the mother. (I only saw it happen at Eid time where the children would touch their mother's feet, or bend as if to do so, and the mother would raise them up and hug them in response.) I know that when I was about 10 years old, Ammi put an end to the practice.
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You main laddoo baantoon agar aap ne yeah kabhi nahi dekha 
@Muqawee123 and @Kinzz can confirm,but it’s quite common in Sindhi culture.
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Tou main laddoo baantoon agar aap ne yeah kabhi nahi dekha
@Muqawee123 and @Kinzz can confirm,but it’s quite common in Sindhi culture.
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Never heard of qadam-bosi. I have heard of the Hyderabadi tradition of pait main mundi daalna and understand it just means ke jhuk ke adaab karna but the jhukna should be sufficiently subservient to put the head-bowing salaam action at level with the elder's stomach - hence, *pait main mundi daalna.
- @khattichic - have you ever heard of this?
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God forbid the day comes when folks ingest mundas or mundis. Not good etiquette.
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*pait main mundi daalkay milna *is a very revered tradition in my family. There are also some in my extended family that do the paon choohna/touching of the elders feet.
i was also taught the water glass thing....if you don't have a saucer, you place your hand underneath the water glass when brining it to someone...to this day I still do it
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yes 
touching knee is sign of giving respect to olders like Taya,dada dadi nana naani.
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All of the above here too.
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Was never told about putting your hand under the glass thing, though I have seen some people do it while giving me water and frankly makes me feel very awkward. I feel its "too much".
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lol sorry it just sounds like a very hindu’ana rasm.
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Oooh, I remember a big one in our family - feet should never touch a pillow, nor should your feet ever be in the direction of where your head rests.
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Are dils expected to touch their mil's feet when going to their inlaws house for the first time? I saw it when I was really really young..
It's a Bengali thing.
I have seen Bengali Muslims follow this practice. But never heard or seen in Pakistan.
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Oooh, I remember a big one in our family - feet should never touch a pillow, nor should your feet ever be in the direction of where your head rests.
I was just gonna post this.
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Oooh, I remember a big one in our family - feet should never touch a pillow, nor should your feet ever be in the direction of where your head rests.
Ooh that's right. Also, feet should never be in the direction of a photo of parents or elders.
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Anyone has seen the culture where sisters are to serve the meal to their father and brothers first, and only eat after the males are done?
Yup, me neither