Etiquette - The less known rules....

[ehl-e-chamman]

Re: Etiquette - The less known rules…

@Laiha

Ehl, it was the same with us with one little exception. When my family came to Canada, slowly we got accustomed to serving food ourselves. I don’t know if it was the moving that made us change, or we just grew older and started doing it ourselves. We still wait for our parents to fill their plate first. So, guests > parents > children

We try to tidy up the house before dad gets home from work.
Someone always goes to the door to greet dad, even though he has a key and lets himself in. If it’s grocery day, we take the bags from his hands. It’s rude to sit on the sofa and watch him bring everything in.
This one we are not so good at but mom always reminds us that when someone (dad, bhai, sis etc) comes home, you should ask them if they want water.
When a male family member comes into the room/house, if I am laying down, I’ll sit up properly and just make sure to adjust my clothes if they’re ruffled or whatever. I don’t wear very fitted clothes at home, but if ever I am, I wear a cardigan on top or use a dupatta.
I used to call my sis ‘appi’ but don’t do it anymore. She is 1.5 years older than me. My parents always insisted that my brothers call us appi. But they never listened.
In my family, we try to use ‘app’ to address other people, even those younger than us. It’s just more respectful.

yup! we did the greet abbu at the door also!
n goodbyes at the door every single morning … lol … maybe we are just a cheesy mushy family lol
my mom always always always walked abbu to the door and stood there till his car went out of view … funnily enough i do the same (on days that im home in the morning) with my husband … didnt really realize it till this thread.
oh n it is considered rude in my family to go hang out in your room when parents are up and sitting in the family/common area. only exception … exam studying. we were expected to and did our usual daily studying, reading books, writing papers all in one room … there was no off by yourself till we were halfway done with university and really studying hard for med school admissions testing etc…
on my moms side of the family … everyone gets “aap” and she says “hum” when referring to self. my dad used to and still teases her about the hum bit … he would say .. kia aap shahhanna khaandan ki hein … kahan hai sultanat aapki!