Seems to me this post is more like a careless banter originating from the smugness that a girl and her mother actually considered you marriage material. I suggest that you debloat yourself and stop the holier than thou attitude towards the poor girl.
See the bold above. I read your story. Are you saying you are a sex starved guy, and that this woman was trying to push her daughter on you?
I didn’t get that sense from your story. Like Mehnaz said, maybe there is more to the story and we weren’t there…but if a mom and her daughter that you know and might have talked to stop you and have a conversation with you…I dont think that screams “Marry my daughter so you can have your sexual appetite taken care of”.
I don’t know. Maybe I’m not fully understanding your story.
Monk, stop trying to condemn the girl and her mother. First look at your intentions. And you are not even shy or upset about them.
And you know what, I don’t particularly like thie attitude that oh I am very pure in my thought, jo meray dil mein hai woh mai bol deyta hoon. No. That is not how you deal with life. You think before you speak or your write. God has given you a mind and a delete button on your keyboard.
And if you are trying to bring in light humor, I don’t find myself laughing.
did the lady inquire about you with marriage in mind?
did the girl inquire about you with marraige in mind?
possibility 1..most likely-
It does not hurt for anyone to ask about an acquaintance, so they had seen your pal with you, and ran into him, what else is a polite conversation topic abut something you have in common, in this case it was you, unless GHQ attack is an appropriate icebreaker.
How would anyone like if their sister and mother ran into one of teh sister’s acquaintances and inquired about someone else, like oh how is so and so, have not seen him in a while. Only to then see that being turned into something dirty..oh look what type of girl she is, look at her mom, no morals, kaisa khandaan hai. kaisi used maal hai…
really how would anyone feel if really simple polite conversation by their sister or mother was given such a meaning and twist by someone.
possibility 2- less likely
if the girl is interested in you, shouldnt she tell her mother? thats the proper way in some circles isnt it, get parents involved or atleast infomed. Now if her mum knows of her daughter’s interest, should she just lock her in the basement and say no u have to mary your cousin shafqat from chuk # biyaleeh? A good parent would respect the daughter’s interest and be involved.
The only situation in which this becomes an issue is if the girl is a poor judge of character. Is she? Because if she is not then it does not matter.
Now this is deep.
hmm
I don’t know what to say.
I used that random girl and her mom to describe a situation wching I went through at least 3 times in my life.
Nik I never told a girl “I want to marry you and some one else because my father was married twice.”
Or “I want to marry you and 3 other girls because my father is a muslim and he believes that God permits 4 marriages.”
How come girls after wasting years of my life come back telling me what their mother believe in ??? did I propose their mothers???
should they like me(here) not be accountable for their own actions???
If guys don’t cry all the times It does not mean they are been treated right by women in their lives. We have hearts too u know…
well you don’t know me enough.. I took enough emotional crap as a kid. and I took sever physical abuse too. I dont think any other kid would have survived it. But know what nik. I was kid then I was vulnerable then..
Now I am grown up I m not going to take it any more..
And you have no idea how to live with some one who try to spoon feed you SHyT..
I know how it is.. Again I just can’t take it any more.
Now as my sister.. what you advice me when I see my years of work going waste .. not because of a girl.. but because of her mother??
you know some thing.. when I write some thing here, as an over view of the situation with any girl.. every women here tell me “move on and stay away” now when I actually describe the situation deeply … no one has stomach to read through it??
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I do admit title was obnoxious. **<---- X2, I just wanted to make point how (some)mums make their daughter do things.. thinking it will get them some where.
Monk, you know what you said about intentions…that you could have just “used her” was really bad…and that’s all. It just makes you sound like a bad guy with impure thoughts and you don’t really care.
It’s like saying oh I drink alcohol, so what at least I admit it with no remorse. See what I am saying?
U know what ppl… I promise you with different ID I will post my stories of things going wrong with different girls… I know for sure I wont find one person who will ask to me stick around!!
Every one is going to tell me cut my self lose from “such” girls and run…
Now just because my title was moronic I am getting all that heat. And every one is sympathizing with the girl.
nik trust me… I know how guys talk about girls.. how they feel about them. It just make me mad when women either don’t know it them self.. OR the tend to over look it.. making excuses.
As a nation/race we are not mature about women!!!
And I certainly don’t want to put our women to the test to check maturity level of the society or… to put their reputation at risk to make society more mature about women.
I am sorry I pick wrong word to say what could have been so simple to describe.
Awwww No one is sympathizing with the girl. We don’t even know her. But we know you and we just wish you didn’t talk about all these things a whole lot.
Acha ab chalo kuch achi thread kholo. All girls aren’t bad you know
seriously I want to start write a serious “women who shape Monk’s life”
U will be surprise to know what I have been through.. in the hands of women.
I aint pretty… I hate to say it ps but not every thing about every woman is pretty.