Re: Equality in Marriage…
This. Prenups are an evolving concept here in the UK that is still dependent on what side of the bed the judge wakes up on. A woman can challenge it and ask for it to be thrown out by making false domestic violence, marital rape and emotional abuse claims. The only way British Pakistani men can protect themselves is by doing just the nikkah without the civil registration. I’d want any daughter to be like my sister purely because my sister, although not married, already talks about the willingness to compromise i.e. living with in laws, doing khidmat whilst working a professional job, not making a mountan out of a molehill etc - we have to tell her to be more like the other women in my family like my phupo’s and their daughters etc. that are selfish, but she reminds us that half these women are either divorced because they tried to lead their relationships and compete with their husbands or have been put in their place with assets being locked up by even more chalak husbands. My experience of British Pakistani women, is exactly that, mine. From 8 years or so of working in the city, to going to uni and college, most British Pakistani women I have come across are self centered and entitled. Are they all like that? Hell no. But the ones I would consider marriage material have been betrothed at birth to mamu or chahchu’s son back home in either Mirpur or Jhelum. What’s left isn’t worth it in imo, however on the flipside, freshie pakistani women are probably worse. At least with British Pakistani women their isn’t much chalaki, it’s all in your face, what you see is what you get. So what’s a man to do?