Re: Equality in Marriage…
Right…ALL other Muslim women are clingy and bat**** crazy after marriage EXCEPT the women in your immediate family. 
I guess now I have a lot of sympathy for your mother/sister. Whatever your mother/sister has shown you all your life…the fact that watching other women overshadowed all that is sad.
Well, whatever you do, make sure you do IVF and choose a male sperm. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to end up with a daughter b/c after all, she’ll grow up to be bat**** crazy, clingy and totally destroy some man’s life.
^ :k: I’m not sure why this is such a difficult concept for people to get. There is nothing wrong with splitting bills and expecting a working wife to contribute towards living expenses. However, both husband must be flexible. Life happens and things change. Its fine for husband to ask that wife contribute/split the bills…but he should also realize that there may be a time she may not be able to or want to work due to pregnancy/recovery/wanting to be at home WHILE THE CHILDREN ARE YOUNG.
If the husband’s salary is more than the wife’s, or if he’s giving his money to his family on a regular basis, OR if his parents are going to something move in with them…then it’s not fair for him to expect that his wife contribute to 50% of the bills. It’s beyond ridiculous to “count pennies” in a marriage. He wants to pay rent/mortgate and asks her to pay all the bills/groceries…great. In my case, my husband pays for pretty much everything. I do 90% of the grocery shopping so I pay for that and whenever I shop for myself, I pay for that. All my salary that’s saved, I don’t treat it as “my” money. Just like my husband doesn’t treat his salary as “his” money. If we buy another another house and he wants me to contribute cash to downpayment or decades later we need “my” money for retirement whatever…he knows I’ll contribute whatever. If we divorce, then ALL assets (his income AND mine) will be community property and will be subject to division.
If a man is counting pennies before the nikah and is treating this like a roommate situation…where he’s literally going to divide ALL bills/expenses in half…then sooner or later, that will cause problems. And on the flip side, if a woman expect housework/cooking to be split straight down the middle…that will cause problems too. OP and this guy both seem like they’re putting down conditions that are inflexible and if these conditions are not met, it will lead to resentment, and many unhappy years down the road (or divorce).