lol, I love how the women and white knights find this arrangement incomprehensible. Women in Britain want 50/50 - you’re getting that. Make a rota for house work, chores etc. and stick to it. Once you have a child, go back to work after your maternity leave finishes - with the both of you earning, you should be able to afford childcare. You’ll actually be worse off both working and paying childcare than you as a stay at home mum - you’re husband will be better off because in case of a divorce, he won’t have to shell out massive spousal support payments if YOU decide to do the whole stay at home mum thing. Why should the man subsidize the woman’s choice to be a stay at home in the form of spousal support after divorce?
**Going into marriage thinking it will end in divorce is the wrong attitude. As for children once kids come along what makes you think the father will not change his mind about childcare? When I had my baby my husband had a change of mind and instead of working wanted me to raise our child instead of having a stranger do it. Having a child really changes a persons mindset. What you think was acceptable before might not be afterwards. **
All the people talking about the Islamic perspective - islamically, your husband only supports you during iddat after divorce, but you get child maintenance - no 50% of hubbies house bs - how many of you girls would follow this in a Western country, lol, yeah right! You don’t have to do housework, cooking etc. in islam, however you do have to follow your husband in everything that is he asks you to do that is halal including not refusing him sex without a legitimate reason.
** Maybe you should read more about the Prophets pbuh life. There are many accounts of the prophet pbuh helping his wives with housework. He would wash his clothes, sweep and clean up. And in Islam wives are given money to spend on the house and themselves. The best husband was the prophet pbuh and he showed how to follow in his footsteps. **
If you become a stay at home mum, will you resent him for working late or divorce him and take at least 50% of his stuff for a petty reason such as not spending enough time with you when all he wants to do is sleep so he can get up in the morning to go to work to subsidise your potential choice to be a stay at home mum?
** being a stay at home mum isn’t a walk in the park you know. Just cause you’re home doesn’t mean you sit and do nothing. Mums are just as exhausted at the end of the day as husbands are. **
The dude’s offering you 50/50, what’s the problem ladies? I thought chivalry was dead?
To alll British Pakistani men, just do nikah without the civil registration, protect yourselves! My dad’s brother is a successful cardiologist who wouldn’t take **** from anyone. He was insistent on doing the civil ceremony before nikkah upon the insistence of my then future chachi’s mother. Lol, within 5 years she told him to his face that she had talked to a solicitor friend of hers and that she owned at least 50% of his ass! And to all those thinking he must be at fault, they have a cleaner that comes round 4 times a week, he brings home a £200k salary, owns assets before marriage, all house laundry gets sent to one of the dry cleaning shops that my dad owns, she can’t cook, has a princess complex and they have an au pair for the kids! Women are sweet before marriage, they go batshi.t crazy after they get a ring on it - protect yourselves from the feminazi agenda fellas!
** You just gave us one example and that too a bad one. What about the other horror stories out there where the woman is being abused by her husband? Locked up not allowed out? Not given money at all? You’re just biased. Generalising everything. **