Equality in Marriage...

ekumunng · March 5, 2015, 3:16pm

Re: Equality in Marriage…

Hello,

Some advice really (again).

I’m getting to know someone and it’s getting to the stage of telling our parents.

He wants to live separately, away from his family. He thinks we should be alone. Great!

However,

He works, I work. Both on similar salary but he’s probably on £10k more than me.

He said he wants to spilt bills 50/50. Everything 50/50.

I said ok, but cooking and cleaning has to be 50/50 too then. He said that’s fine, it’s the 21st century.

I always wanted the guy to pay most bills, I contribute some but I do the cleaning and cooking. I’m abit of a traditionalist.

Am I unreasonable to think this? Especially when we are both working? Holidays will be spilt, which I understand.

Will the housework and cleaning actually be 50/50? I’ve got a feeling I’ll end up doing more naturally.

What are your thoughts?

He also has to pay towards his parents mortgage, but that’s split between the brothers. The brothers bought it to give his parents better living accommodation. So I can’t really dispute that.

Sorry for asking loads of questions! It’s my first relationship and I’m too compromising in life in general and I just don’t want to be a pushover in marriage.

Is this marriage or roommate agreement?