Engagement - Should you communicate a lot or keep it limited?

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Re: Engagement - Should you communicate a lot or keep it limited?

@Demesne

People would like communication simply because they are principal parties in this situation and thus would like to know each other

Getting to know before engagement would basically go against our cultural norms. What premise do you have to interact with a person before engagement Islamically? For the purposes of getting to know him? How long does it actually take to know a person? I don’t think any amount of time is enough. Islam allows us interaction to a limited extent towards the ultimate purpose of accepting or rejecting a proposal. You can never know a person enough, much less know him before engagement. You get to know a person before engagement in the basics. That’s where family helps. You look at education, character references, family and their values. After engagement you begin viewing the finer aspects.

thank you. your reply is really helpful.