Engagement - Should you communicate a lot or keep it limited?

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Re: Engagement - Should you communicate a lot or keep it limited?

@Demesne

Yes it is important to get to know him naturally. But an overdose of information rarely leads to good understanding. A lot of emotions come into play if communication is unlimited. Misunderstandings arise. People who we know, and people who know us, we can spend hours with them saying whatever we want and knowing when to give benefit of doubt because no one is tactful all the time, we understand what they say even if they say it incorrectly, as noone will be perfectly expressive all the time either. With unlimited contact however, that is what happens. You doz not understand the person perfectly well already, and you are talking to him so much that someone is bound to slip up somewhere and say something which may be misconstrued.

Secondly, its not a realistic take on how much time either will have for each other later. The one good thing about arranged marriages and setups is going in with little expectation and hence adapting better in that sense. You talk 24/7 and then itll be “oh we used to talk so much, now he is off to work twelve hours a day”

one question I want to ask from you.

why people here are demanding communication/contact.

why dont they complete get to know thing before engagement?

as far as i know, engagement is like you agree to proceed further.