Re: Engagement - Should you communicate a lot or keep it limited?
@ Demesne: I can totally appreciate that going overboard: calling for hours on end every single day etc would be def a bad thing and I can see what other posters are saying but personally I don’t see the harm in calling / texting / meeting up as long as it is within limits. How can going for lunch once a week/ fortnight or a day outing be a bad thing? I think I’m seeing this as a time to get comfortable in each other’s presence. It doesnt have to be the couple alone: it could be with family members / mutual friends etc - just something informal and relaxed.
As for saying something untactful or misconstrued: In the engagement period, I’d like to get to a point where I know the guy’s just joking and not being serious and vice versa. This is what I mean about being comfortable with each other. Maybe I’m young and naive to think it could happen without problems..? I’m not sure…
BTW. for engagement I’m referring to nikah. I’m sorry if this wasn’t clear.
EXACTLY exactly the same with my parents. I know that my dad did seriously consider divorce a number of times, but he decided not to for the sake of the kids and now he actively focuses on good points about my mum instead of bad. Alhamd, my parents get on better now and they’re not unhappy. But apart from language and maybe culture (both brought up in Pak) they have NOTHING in common. That is not a life I want to live.