I'm sorry to say but a lit of girls who are well short are kinda tricking people. Someone I know usually tells rishte wale her daughter's 5ft when she's clearly NOT. She's about 4'9" or even shorter than that. She's always in huge heels and when I say HUGE I mean 6 inch long heels.
Did the girl not stand up infront of the guy when he came to see her?
The girl's parents are equally responsible as they wanted their daughter to be seated all the time and stood just once to greet them but he didn't notice as he was busy in meeting other family members as i already mentioned..Then how they rushed into things and within 1 or 2 day asked for rasam messed it all up.Being desparate of girl's parents is understandable coz they had 6 daughters lined up for marriage and her 2 sis were older than her but why did they hide height issue like this..tht caused confusion.And worst of all the boy couldn't notice and handled it immaturely by saying yes before giving a thorough look at her.
His parents are equally blamed for all what happened.It was not a gudiya gudday ka khail...Dono kee life pe asar para hai..esp the girl coz she had already height issue and now mangni tootna..may Allah bless her with a life partner better than my cousin..Ameen
Her height was 4 feet 9 with full heels means she was about 4'4..(plzz dont take it wrong ..my purpose is not to humiliate somebody so its better to close the thread than stretching the matter any further)..and I dint want to mention but I ve seen the pics so the guy was justified too but what he did was completely wrong.This world is superficial really and he couldnt compromise with that height..thats justified coz mangni kee koi sharaee haisiat nahi hai. .as Rv said also..
Most of you are bashing on the guy ,I respect everybody's opinion and agree ..yess he did the worst by saying yes for mangni before realizing height issue..and he is guilty and prays to Allah for forgiveness..thats the best thing and if he will pray to God whole heartedly then Allah sab se barh ker muaaf kerney wala hai.
And he has become alert nw and has learnt a good lesson.
^you sure you're not exaggerating....4'4" !!!! i cant believe it, besides someone that short is noticeable even while sitting down due to small body proportions
^you sure you're not exaggerating....4'4" !!!! i cant believe it, besides someone that short is noticeable even while sitting down due to small body proportions
Why would I be exaggerating...!!..thts what ppl told.I didn't see her in person and I am not good enough in jugding someone's height by looking at pics but yesss there was a huge difference really.
..I previously mentioned that her height was roughly 4,9 and she was wearing large heels(4,9 with heels ) and she was on a bit healthier side ..I saw the pics and from her face I could not judge that she had height issue.
I mentioned already that everybody noticed on engagement day that her feet were not touching the ground so she was sitting on the edge of sofa(i didnt mention edge of sofa wali baat coz I didn't want to highlight it to that extent but I ve seen this in pics also).....I ve seen the pics myself and there was a huge difference when both were standing with each other..hope it makes sense..
iss sab mein uss larki ka kya qasoor??...nothing.But her parents were desparate that was true .. and they themselves asked for nikah on immediate notice...yyy??..taakey sochney ka time hee na miley??....y did she not do any serving stuff?..y was she already sitting on sofa when larkey waley reached drawing room??...
both parties are to be blamed....boy's parents didn't notice coz his mother was of short stature(abt 5) also and doesn't go for looks etc...that was their fault.if you will read my post u will get to know..
For me he was shareef and humble and I stick to it , coz I personally know him...I wrote to it in flow which I shouldn't...coz here he was stranger for all and when I mentioned him being shareef,it made some ppl angry..for you ppl he may be wrong,bad coz you don't know him obviously
The point is that the guy should have looked her thoroughly which he didn't ..so he was wrong ..so thats all.
Anyways that is just my opinion..
Why would I be exaggerating...!!..thts what ppl told.I didn't see her in person and I am not good enough in jugding someone's height by looking at pics but yesss there was a huge difference really.
..I previously mentioned that her height was roughly 4,9 and she was wearing large heels(4,9 with heels ) and she was on a bit healthier side ..I saw the pics and from her face I could not judge that she had height issue.
I mentioned already that everybody noticed on engagement day that her feet were not touching the ground so she was sitting on the edge of sofa(i didnt mention edge of sofa wali baat coz I didn't want to highlight it to that extent but I ve seen this in pics also).....I ve seen the pics myself and there was a huge difference when both were standing with each other..hope it makes sense..
iss sab mein uss larki ka kya qasoor??...nothing.But her parents were desparate that was true .. and they themselves asked for nikah on immediate notice...yyy??..taakey sochney ka time hee na miley??....y did she not do any serving stuff?..y was she already sitting on sofa when larkey waley reached drawing room??...
both parties are to be blamed....boy's parents didn't notice coz his mother was of short stature(abt 5) also and doesn't go for looks etc...that was their fault.if you will read my post u will get to know..
For me he was shareef and humble and I stick to it , coz I personally know him...I wrote to it in flow which I shouldn't...coz here he was stranger for all and when I mentioned him being shareef,it made some ppl angry..for you ppl he may be wrong,bad coz you don't know him obviously
The point is that the guy should have looked her thoroughly which he didn't ..so he was wrong ..so thats all.
Anyways that is just my opinion..
Though I thought that the biggest mistake here was made by your cousin when I read the earlier posts, after reading this I blame him less. It seems like they were trying to hide the height issue from what you've said. So now I would put more of the blame on the girl's family. That being said, it must have been unpleasant for both of them, so I wish them both all the best.
jab bhi jo bhi hota hai allah ki taraf kuch ache keliye hota hai
and i think they both should think they are very lucky abt it qauz dono ki zindagiyan khrab hone c bach gayee kyoun shahdi baad agar apna mun kholna pare na to dono hi zaleel hote hain so at one side its good...
but u know koi bhi yeh cheez read karega sab eb pehle to woh yahi kahega k larke ka kasoor hai but at the other side its okay
like kismat ki baat hoti hai
and if he so much shareef and so namazii he should think that jo hua allah ki taraf c hua dono ki zindagi khrab hone c bachgayee and stop feeling guilty...
and abt serving i think many ppl r right abt it that its a big blame to her parents they knew k unki larki ki height choti hai so that's why they didnt let her daughter stand up
hii all..I have been a silent viewer of this forum .this is my first post and its about my cousin(male).My cousin is well settled and is mashaAllah earning well plus he is very shy and humble guy and he has never been involved in any love affair or something like that.About 3 mths back his family started looking for his rishta but uncle aunti both are very simple and really they dont go for looks etc.So somebody told them about a girl tht if you want then u may go n see tht girl..so my uncle aunti asked my cousin to go with them and have a look.My cousin was a bit reluctant but they insisted and he got ready to go with them.When they reached the girl's home ,they saw the girl already sitting on the sofa.She stood up and met with aunti and again sat on sofa...According to my cousin that he only put a glance on her and didn't notice anything.Anyways the girl had 5 sisters ,so they came infront of my cousin and asked him his phone number etc.They didn't say "haan" at that time.Anyways next day the girl's family came to their house and said that we like ur son etc etc and hamari taraf se baat pakki hai..aap log nikah k liey aa jaaiye...my uncle and aunt asked my cousin about the girl and he said ok to her.So they decided to do a small rasam with only immediate family members coz all his siblings were settled in foreign so Nikkah was not possible on urgent notice.Anyways..after 2 0r 3 days my cousin's family went for rasam with few relatives and obviously the girl sat beside my cousin.So there was exchange of rings etc..and then somebody asked the couple to stand up for pics.So when both of them stood up the boy noticed that girl's height was very short..her height was hardly 4 feet 9 inches (according to some ppl who were there)(BTW my cousin is 5 feet 10 inches).She was wearing very high heels but still could not reach his shoulder even.Every body noticed it but at that time they couldn't say anything obviously.On coming back home the boy refused for marriage and asked them to break engagement but uncle aunti said k abb mangni ho gayee hai abb sooli pe charh jaao..(their exact words).but my cousin said k ye saari zindagi ka maamla hai..and he doesnt want to marry someone he is not attracted to...Everybody told uncle and aunt k larki kee height boht kum lag rahee thee as compared to boy and they noticed also that when she was sitting on sofa her feet couldnt touch the ground etc etc..but uncle aunt said k nahi iss ne mangni se pehley kyun nahi dekha and my cousin was like mujhey andaza nahi hua coz mein ne sirf aik jhalak dekhi thee..Anyways,next day the girl's sister called the boy on mobile but he didnt answer then they called at home and talked to aunt k jeeja jee se kahen hamein kal sea view le k jaain..My aunt was worried coz my cousin wanted to break the engagement.She made some excuse etc..After that the girl herself called him so many times but he never replied.uncle aunti asked my cousin to talk to her and meet her ,ur thinkings might be changed etc etc but my cousin was like..k mein kyun baat ker k usey aas dilaaun when I am not up for it.Anyways he asked uncle aunt to break the engagement asap but they didnt agree to it coz of khof e Khuda .All of them were upset but no body had the courage to go tell the girl's family abt it.The girl called him so many times but he never received the phone,she used to send sms but he never replied coz he didnt want to continue engagement.My cousin was guilty also that he could have noticed it before engagement..Now after 3 mths one of my aunt's friends went to girls home and made some excuse that the boy doesn't want to get married rt now.She returned ring etc.My cousin felt relaxed but sometimes he feels guilty also.He says that I should have looked at her before engagement and perhaps wo larki abb kahin mujhey bud dua na dey blah blah.As I told you before that really he is a very shareef guy and namaazi mashaAllah.We keep on telling him k nahi koi baat nahi it was just engagement not nikkah etc (but personally I feel about that poor girl also).My cousin sometimes get upset tht why didnt he analyse her before.. uncle aunti often make him realize that he shouldnt have broken the engagement etc.He is in constant torture.What do you all guys think.Was he right in his decision to break the engagement or not?.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH ROFLMFAO, seriously, seriously, and people were calling me immature and calling my story bull****, and saying I rushed into a marriage.
The sad thing is this is probably true. Holy **** that was funny.
I feel so much better after reading the stuff on this site.