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September 19, 2010, 11:46am
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Re: Engagement breaking
hii all..I have been a silent viewer of this forum .this is my first post and its about my cousin(male).My cousin is well settled and is mashaAllah earning well plus he is very shy and humble guy and he has never been involved in any love affair or something like that.About 3 mths back his family started looking for his rishta but uncle aunti both are very simple and really they dont go for looks etc.So somebody told them about a girl tht if you want then u may go n see tht girl..so my uncle aunti asked my cousin to go with them and have a look.My cousin was a bit reluctant but they insisted and he got ready to go with them.When they reached the girl’s home ,they saw the girl already sitting on the sofa.She stood up and met with aunti and again sat on sofa…According to my cousin that he only put a glance on her and didn’t notice anything.Anyways the girl had 5 sisters ,so they came infront of my cousin and asked him his phone number etc.They didn’t say “haan” at that time.Anyways next day the girl’s family came to their house and said that we like ur son etc etc and hamari taraf se baat pakki hai..aap log nikah k liey aa jaaiye…my uncle and aunt asked my cousin about the girl and he said ok to her.So they decided to do a small rasam with only immediate family members coz all his siblings were settled in foreign so Nikkah was not possible on urgent notice.Anyways..after 2 0r 3 days my cousin’s family went for rasam with few relatives and obviously the girl sat beside my cousin.So there was exchange of rings etc..and then somebody asked the couple to stand up for pics.So when both of them stood up the boy noticed that girl’s height was very short..her height was hardly 4 feet 9 inches (according to some ppl who were there)(BTW my cousin is 5 feet 10 inches).She was wearing very high heels but still could not reach his shoulder even.Every body noticed it but at that time they couldn’t say anything obviously.On coming back home the boy refused for marriage and asked them to break engagement but uncle aunti said k abb mangni ho gayee hai abb sooli pe charh jaao..(their exact words).but my cousin said k ye saari zindagi ka maamla hai..and he doesnt want to marry someone he is not attracted to…Everybody told uncle and aunt k larki kee height boht kum lag rahee thee as compared to boy and they noticed also that when she was sitting on sofa her feet couldnt touch the ground etc etc..but uncle aunt said k nahi iss ne mangni se pehley kyun nahi dekha and my cousin was like mujhey andaza nahi hua coz mein ne sirf aik jhalak dekhi thee..Anyways,next day the girl’s sister called the boy on mobile but he didnt answer then they called at home and talked to aunt k jeeja jee se kahen hamein kal sea view le k jaain..My aunt was worried coz my cousin wanted to break the engagement.She made some excuse etc..After that the girl herself called him so many times but he never replied.uncle aunti asked my cousin to talk to her and meet her ,ur thinkings might be changed etc etc but my cousin was like..k mein kyun baat ker k usey aas dilaaun when I am not up for it.Anyways he asked uncle aunt to break the engagement asap but they didnt agree to it coz of khof e Khuda .All of them were upset but no body had the courage to go tell the girl’s family abt it.The girl called him so many times but he never received the phone,she used to send sms but he never replied coz he didnt want to continue engagement.My cousin was guilty also that he could have noticed it before engagement..Now after 3 mths one of my aunt’s friends went to girls home and made some excuse that the boy doesn’t want to get married rt now.She returned ring etc.My cousin felt relaxed but sometimes he feels guilty also.He says that I should have looked at her before engagement and perhaps wo larki abb kahin mujhey bud dua na dey blah blah.As I told you before that really he is a very shareef guy and namaazi mashaAllah.We keep on telling him k nahi koi baat nahi it was just engagement not nikkah etc (but personally I feel about that poor girl also).My cousin sometimes get upset tht why didnt he analyse her before.. uncle aunti often make him realize that he shouldnt have broken the engagement etc.He is in constant torture.What do you all guys think.Was he right in his decision to break the engagement or not?.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH ROFLMFAO, seriously, seriously, and people were calling me immature and calling my story bull****, and saying I rushed into a marriage.
The sad thing is this is probably true. Holy **** that was funny.
I feel so much better after reading the stuff on this site.