Ofcourse everything can’t be chkd thats y everyone is so vary when the shadi is happening n they pray all goes well. I think in such a situation, it shud be left to Allah. Just pray that he makes things easy for you and your family. Ofcourse each to their own and they wl have their own reaction bt if we keep rejected rishtas based on these things, which are not small but still, then life wl be very difficult.