Well I was watching TNG as I do when I am tired and sick. I was watching the “A Perfect Mate” episode. Its been a decade since I have seen it. But it brought up an interesting idea. The story line basically shows a woman who is an Empathic Metamorph whose sole job is to bind to a man to make his every wish come true.
An empathic metamorph is a person who can sense emotions and morphs into that persons desired wish. The emphasis in the show was both sexual as we as personality wise. She becomes the exact personality to find most attractive and takes the physical shape of what you find most attractive in a female.
Basically she lacks an identity of her own, but confirms and changes herself so you are happy. How many of you men would be happy with such a mate?
Not really.
But again I can change her into a strong women.
You know its important to have a woman who can live life at her own with grace.
I am not talking about financially. I am talking about raising kids and stuff.
You know some time ppl die!!
This concept has been there in Islam. But it will come true only in Paradise. In Jannat your every wish will come true . The women will turn into whatever shape or face , you would want them to be. The food and drinks will taste as you will wish them to be.
So you have to wait till we get in there. Work on it will ya ?
I know, I know, you asked the guys, BUT my take on the subject and to relate it to a practical, real-life scenario:
While I've never met someone who has the characteristics of an "emphatic metaphorph", I was introduced to this one guy who was willing to change pretty much everything about himself to be what I wanted. His attitude was "you don't like my job, I can look for another one; you want to raise our future children this way, sure we will; you think this way, I agree with you" - basically he was a yes man, asking for how he could please me.
And it was a HUGE turn-off. While I wanted our values to be the same, I also wanted him to challenge me - to tell me when I wrong (not that that was ever the case) - but someone capable of independent thought.
And yes, I know, a "true emphatic metamorph" would have the characteristics that I desire in a partner, i.e., someone who would challenge me - but where's the free will in an EM that makes him a sentient human being?
I'm like that. When i'm talking to someone, i subconsciously change my way of talking to kinda mimic the way they talk. I'm sure its not the same thing, but otehrwise...yeah....i find myself changing.
I think thats why alot of families tend to choose younger girls as wives and bahus..because they're more likely to be "molded" into what you want.
Btw, this also extends to online talking. If someone speaks proper english, I follow suit. If they curse and stuff…i wont mind throwing in a few f-bombs. (or not, if the other person hates cursing). if they talk fobby..i talk fobby. Hmmmmm
people who say we are attracted to our opposites...
To me, it is a very very unrealistic statement. It is definitely possible to like stuff in others which you don't have and vice versa but it is almost impossible to live your life practically with a person who is completely opposite.
As for wanting an empathic metamorph, it is almost a crime in my eyes to push someone so much to change into your f'n ideals.
