I tend to get so emotionally attached to people, friends or anybody i get to know on a personal level. including family(but that’s of course a given and i don’t want to prevent that). i get close to to people i meet and then when they leave, i feel massively empty inside. I’m hoping i’m not the only one that does that.
How do you prevent it? 
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just keep reminding yourself that u are self sufficient.
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aaw .. u got to prevent it nish a.. avoid getting to close from the get go
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just keep reminding yourself that u are self sufficient.
that is really good advice : )
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just keep reminding yourself that u are self sufficient.
that is really good advice : )
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There is nothing wrong with getting close to people. However, if you’re getting hurt too often, then there must be something going wrong there, right?
The solution isn’t to stop getting attached. The solution would lie in figuring out why you get attached to people and fulfilling that need of yours in a healthier manner.
Point is to NOT be too hard on yourself, to not feel bad about yourself just because you have a certain pattern, but to try to figure it out.
Ask yourself these questions:
What does getting (really) close to people, too quickly, achieve for you?
How does it make your life better?
How does it make you FEEL better?
What do you like about it?
Then, think about if that same need can be met in some other way. Actually, figuring out the reason would be half the work. Don’t worry yourself with the next part of it, yet.
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Contradiction here.
A- You feel ‘attached’ to** people**. Maybe they are strangers.
B- You do not want to and are asking for advice to prevent.
Yes it is different, weird and unusual. A lot of people do not get ‘attached so emotionally’ to anyone.
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Try to get emotionally attached with someone you can get physically attached with too. Nuff said.
Kidding!
I am the same. Get attached and then horrible zalim people leave lol! 
but I have learnt to get through it, it pains for like 1 2 months then u are so over it, u are like ohhh who was that person? 
I am kidding about that too, you do know who they are and will always no but of course you have gotten over it and moved ahead! 
and doing well in your life… ! without toxic stufffff
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just remind yourself...everyone has to go away eventually.....everyone....when u are aware of that....you won't get that hurt...its just inevitable.
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can you please explain, well i should probably be honest and say that i’m at my emotional lowest with everything that could go wrong has gone wrong in terms of love BUT i did get some incredible news recently that’s been the only wonderful news so far in terms of my career. didn’t want to seem like i was whining in that first post so didn’t put all that in there 
:).
i don’t know how people can not get close to somebody they get to know personally. i think i tend to give the friendships more value than others might. for them it’s just casual but for me i see it as a bond that should be everlasting.
i’m on the rebound so maybe that might have something to do with that cycle of getting attached and then the breaking away. I’ve gotten so used to it by now. if the breaking away doesn’t happen from their side i do it myself just so i don’t get too deep and then get hurt when i’m too involved. holy cow! a revelation! thanks i just realized so much about myself from your one post
so you’re saying i’m weird…aaah diwana you should be a therapist, all your patients would be slitting their wrists after a therapy session with you 
and no they are not all strangers
i’m glad i’m not the only one seriously we need to break out of that cycle of pain that we’re so used to.
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Oh no you are not the only one, I am kind of the expert on this topic. So used to it now. Maybe we should start our own anonymous. Break Through anonymous or Eff people who left us anonymous lool! kidding about the last one :/
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just remind yourself...everyone has to go away eventually.....everyone....when u are aware of that....you won't get that hurt...its just inevitable.
nice thought! thanks, that seems like such a depressing and pessimistic thing to do but it just might work, atleast i'll save myself from any emotional attachment and eventual pain
you're sweet(and don't worry no i won't get attached to you b/c you gave me nice advice :D)
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lol at the thing in brackets
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anonymous? eh? and what a depressing group that will be, i’m guessing nice names though
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no no we will partayyyyyyyyyyy lol no depression :p
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I won’t mind even if you do…
P.S…i think thats how you are supposed to get over betrayal/death/detachment of any person you love..
can i come too:@:
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i'm on the rebound so maybe that might have something to do with that cycle of getting attached and then the breaking away. I've gotten so used to it by now. if the breaking away doesn't happen from their side i do it myself just so i don't get too deep and then get hurt when i'm too involved. holy cow! a revelation! thanks i just realized so much about myself from your one post :-)
I am glad you got a revelation about yourself :).
There is more stuff there. But take it easy. Think about this when you're ready:
Is getting close too people a way of ensuring that you won't get hurt? (Would you say that's how you saw it before the cycle of getting too close and then getting hurt began?)
If yes, the next question would be; how does getting close to people keep you from getting hurt? What do other people do that helps you feel protected from pain?
just remind yourself...everyone has to go away eventually.....everyone....when u are aware of that....you won't get that hurt...its just inevitable.
This is actually true. And as sad as that it, it is just the reality of life. If we accept it as just the way it is, without attaching the negative feeling to it, it becomes easier. However, doing that is obviously difficult.
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Awww. I am like that too, in the begining i do take my time warming up to new people but if i get along well with someone then i am very friendly with them and they become very special to me. I can’t fake friends or any relationships. So when they hurt me in any which way, it really hurts alot :(.
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I am also a victim of my this attitude. I get so much attached that I get hurt so badly, I can't understand what to do? I feel myself in a cage and I want to get out of it, please help me!
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There's nothing wrong with getting attached as someone mentioned earlier. Its just trying to adapt to the situation you need to work on. If all we tried doing every single time we met someone was to prevent ourselves getting too close, the world would be a sad and depressing place. Its not a bad thing, you just gotta learn to cope. Find stuff to do, find ways to persist.