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So can we nag you for “health reasons” ? 
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Blitz.. bank of daddy.. im a daddys grl too :halo:
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Oh so you are looting all sides with both hands..
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First of all I don’t deny the problem of emotional abuse in our society but some of the examples you guys listed down are very subjective. For example, you can offer someone a mint without thinking twice and he due to his own insecurity thinks you are trying to point out his bad breath.
Second of all, this problem of emotional abuse is a byproduct of inconsiderate arranged marriages (where the person arranging the marriage didn’t do a good job) and loved marriages without proper consent (of parents or others who will have to live through it). Not many spouses deliberately abuse each other, its just that when you don’t like someone anything they do seems stupid and anything they says seems condescending and degrading. Part of it also has to do with how our society portrays the relationships among husband and wife and in-laws and with what preconceived notions does someone enter a marriage. I am often amazed at the comments I get to hear from aunties about raising my daughter and how I should think about her marriage and what to consider and what not to consider.
In summary it’s a very complicated problem with no silver bullet answer.
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^ Dang, i will smack (in my mind :halo: ) any aunty who talks about my kaki getting married 
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True. However, in cases where the emotional abuse is REAL and not a figment of someone’s imagination, lets talk about solutions.
Is divorce the right thing to do? Or are u morally obligated to keep working at it?
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AJ. Sir, you raise good points but are very diplomatic about it. First you say that emotional abuse is a by-product of arrange marriage where person didn't do a good job finding a spouse that fulfills their dreams and aspirations. Someone that never let them down. Ok, yeah in arrange marriages people don't know each other that well but in love marriages they do and still they end up at the same place. How much does one want to know about other person before he/she gets married? How many consents and approval one needs? I think most of the married couples know that mis-communication and fighting are a part of life, nothing too big as long as both have respect for each other.
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^ He also mentioned love marriages that weren't done right as well.
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Read it again, I know that he mentioned such thing. If love marriage is about knowing how much does one want to know about their partner?
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what?
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Emotional abuse is based on power and domination. In this kind of abuse one does not listen to another person. Always neglects them and never put forward their needs and never takes responsibility for doing something wrong. In US, about 3 million women are abused domesticaly where they are neglected-beaten. Most of these marriages are love where the person at least knows their partner to some extent. I said how much does one wants to know before getting into a marriage? I know personally a friend that married, love and with consent of parents. Ended up badly, people change with time and no one can basically know in the end whether the person is right for them or they would change after marriage.
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Why do I get the feeling that your poor spouse will be emotinally abused?
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Okay, I didn't get you because of prolly your typing error and hence weird grammar.
You're right, there is no specific amount of information you can get from a person prior to marriage that will ENSURE that you are not marrying a nut.
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I dont think he will. If anything, I have a fear of emotional and physical abuse. Not in particular from him because he’s done anything, but just in general. I just have heard too many horror stories to not be a cynic.
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Well. At a least I can I meak sense :)
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Sometimes. But you sure have trouble with spelling.
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make, not maek.
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You forgot to mention the two 'I' and an 'a' after atleast.
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See how bad your grammar is?
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I do it purposely just for the people at Gupshup.