Emotional Abuse

Lifestyle Relationships
1

Its a type of abuse that is VERY common in our society, but its usually kept private and ignored.

If you were being emotionally abused by your spouse, would you resort to divorce to solve the problem? That is after all other steps of counseling, etc have been taken?

2

Re: Emotional Abuse

yeh. if it was a continuous thing

3

Re: Emotional Abuse

Well really depends. First try to make sure..that we could sort our problem out on our own. And in case, if we cant? then of course PCG..i see counseling as an option..and again..if that doesn't work..then..divorce would be better.

4

Re: Emotional Abuse

I would probably get him some psychological help first. A lot of times, these people are not even aware that they are emotionally abusing you. I think I would owe it to the relationship to exhaust every available option first.

On a side note, I think a lot of parents emotionally abuse their children but we gotta keep them around don’t we?:confused:

5

Re: Emotional Abuse

She says in her first post "after counseling" ... meaning divorce isn't the first thing thot fo when dealing iwth it, but rather the last step..

6

Re: Emotional Abuse

So you say divorce your parents then? lol :hehe:

@** "" Tum Kehtay Ho"" **@
7

Re: Emotional Abuse

^ It's possible.. legal emancipation :)

8

Re: Emotional Abuse

Depends, sometimes you cant go back to what it was and its best to start over.

9

Re: Emotional Abuse

Will you do it to your mom? :smiley:

10

Re: Emotional Abuse

I think i'll keep my mom. :)

11

Re: Emotional Abuse

Allah maaf karay!!

How could you say something like that, even in jest ??? :grumpy:

I’m a mamma’s grl, ask shweetdreamz.. :blush:

12

Re: Emotional Abuse

Can one of you guys please define what constitute as an ‘emotional abuse’ and give some example to help me understand? Please.

13

Re: Emotional Abuse

You get what you give?

But "dont let go, You've got the music in you ..." and all that beautiful jazz.

14

Re: Emotional Abuse

Okay here are many many examples. Perhaps one's response in each case might differ:

  1. Forcing you to stop doing activities you enjoy, which you don't feel are immoral or anything to begin with.

  2. Constantly ordering you around and belittling you.

  3. Always degrading you - at home. Outside - putting on a fake facade as if you're the greatest husband/in-laws ever seen on Earth.

  4. Shouting/nasty attitude - constantly.

  5. Mind games

  6. Forcing you to give up characteristics that you feel define your personality. Like forcing you to not wear make-up.

  7. Constant dhamkiyan, that if you don't do what he/inlaws tell you to do, then they'll throw you out and take your kids away.

etc.

15

Re: Emotional Abuse

So if a wife nags her obese husband to quit eating so much, would that be considered 'stop doing activities you enjoy'?

16

Re: Emotional Abuse

^ No, that’s her watching out for his health, making sure he lives long enough to c their kids get married and he not make her a widow :hoonh:

17

Re: Emotional Abuse

Okay ahmadjee, you can have your holiday cookies. Don't go and have a coronary over it, budha uncle.

18

Re: Emotional Abuse

You cant change whats around you but you can change what inside of you. Stop being abused. Don't let it get to you.

Once the other person knows what they are saying or doing has no effect on you they will stop. thats just human nature.

19

Re: Emotional Abuse

Other examples of emotional abuse:

  1. Not letting you meet/ring your parents.

  2. Disliking all you love-relatives & friends. (soon his/her friends are your only friends)

  3. Throwing tantrems, everytime you do something not liked by the spouse??

  4. Controlling & trying to change you.

  5. Threatening self harm to force the issue.

  6. Breaking the spirit of the person - so much so that they start doing whatever is expected of them.

20

Re: Emotional Abuse

Not papa’s girl?! :bummer: