Emotional Abuse is all about power and control over another human being. I speak on a personal level…the feeling of rejection, degradation, the terror, the isolation and worst of all the denial of the importance of my feelings..all club together every now and then and I experience a total emotional and physical breakdown.
The side effects have been many, from depression, lack of trust in people to low self worth. My immune system seems to take a plunge every now and then…worst effected is my stomach and now my chest and throat areas.
Had many friends but no one really that I could talk to or cry with. Thee are times I’ve craved for the warmth of a hug or some sign of affection.
But here’s the problem…my main problem is my over sensitivity…I get hurt easily coz I’m always reminded by my “abuser” that I and my feelings are of no value.
Now as I might be gettin my first job soon ( If God Wills) I know I’ll have to face responsibilities and people and situations and I’m worried about getting emotionally disturbed.
I mean in school and college if you have a bad mood day you just rush to the nearest rest room or step out of class. But how will I be able to control my emotions at work.
There are times I leave home very upset…I used to be good at sucking it in and getting on with life but lately I just can’t seem to think straight. I have got someone very special who I tell my most intimate thoughts to but sometimes the situations are to humiliating and embaressing…retelling them woudl be as bad as reliving it.
There are nights I pray and pray hoping I’d wake up with a stronger heart and mind. I’ve read in many articles that the victim shoudl never blame themselves…but there’s not a single day that I don’t blame myself…there are times that I even believe that I deserve it…that I am a bad person…that I did do something wrong.
I could go on..but I thank you for reading this much and maybe if you know what I’m talking about or have suffered the same thing then you can help me get over it too. 
An article about emotional abuse and it’s forms
rejecting
- refusing to acknowledge a person’s presence, value or worth; communicating to a person that she or he is useless or inferior; devaluing her/his thoughts and feelings. Example: repeatedly treating a child differently from siblings in a way that suggests resentment, rejection or dislike for the child.
degrading
- insulting, ridiculing, name calling, imitating and infantilizing; behaviour which diminishes the identity, dignity and self-worth of the person. Examples: yelling, swearing, publicly humiliating or labelling a person as stupid; mimicking a person’s disability; treating a senior as if she or he cannot make decisions.
terrorizing
- inducing terror or extreme fear in a person; coercing by intimidation; placing or threatening to place a person in an unfit or dangerous environment. Examples: forcing a child to watch violent acts toward other family members or pets; threatening to leave, physically hurt or kill a person, pets or people she / he cares about; threatening to destroy a person’s possessions; threatening to have a person deported or put in an institution; stalking.
isolating
- physical confinement; restricting normal contact with others; limiting freedom within a person’s own environment. Examples: excluding a senior from participating in decisions about her or his own life; locking a child in a closet or room alone; refusing a female partner or senior access to her or his own money and financial affairs; withholding contact with grandchildren; depriving a person of mobility aids or transportation.
corrupting/exploiting
- socializing a person into accepting ideas or behaviour which oppose legal standards; using a person for advantage or profit; training a child to serve the interests of the abuser and not of the child. Examples: child sexual abuse; permitting a child to use alcohol or drugs or see pornography; enticing a person into the sex trade.
denying emotional responsiveness
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failing to provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner; being detached and uninvolved; interacting only when necessary; ignoring a person’s mental health needs. Examples: ignoring a child’s attempt to interact; failing to show affection, caring and / or love for a child; treating a senior who lives in an institution as though she / he is an object or “a job to be done.”
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Emotional abuse accompanies other forms of abuse, but also may occur on its own;
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No abuse - neglect, physical, sexual or financial - can occur without psychological consequences. Therefore all abuse contains elements of emotional abuse;
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Emotional abuse follows a pattern; it is repeated and sustained. If left unchecked, abuse does not get better over time. It only gets worse;
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Like other forms of violence in relationships, those who hold the least power and resources in society, for example, women and children, are most often emotionally abused;
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Emotional abuse can severely damage a person’s sense of self-worth and perception;
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In children, emotional abuse can impair psychological development, including: intelligence, memory, recognition, perception, attention, imagination and moral development; and
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Emotional abuse can also affect a child’s social development and may result in an impaired ability to perceive, feel, understand and express emotions.
i’m known to be a good agony aunty among my friends