I may not be the best advisor here but I think you really need to learn how to let go of things... I'm working on it myself and its not easy. I feel like I have been in similar situation and all I did was not to think about it...found myself some activity to keep my mind off it...
maybe this person knows that whatever she is doing is hurting you, but doesn't want to show it...I don't know. I wish that everything works out fine for you, just don’t worry too much about what has not even happened yet, you never know… Maybe you’ll be different when you get a job, be hopeful and optimistic :~)
none of my business but here is what i think all parents love there kids, different parents have differnt ways of showing affection, as parents are individuals 2, You should thank god that your parents are with you, they provided for you, for your education and well being. Some times it does get aggrevating but we normally just see the negetive and forget the positive things they have done for us. cheer up and think something nice i think u got nagged 2 day and ur just angry right now.
At the bottom of your heart you know that u love her and there are no 2 ways about it im sure she loves u back.
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i think u got nagged 2 day and ur just angry right now.
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There's a difference between nagged and being struck in the face with something hard
Not raising your voice against something
which is clearly wrong is not different from promoting it.
Although you're the victim in this case, but you need to
stand up to your abuser whether or not she's ready to face
her doings. The longer you sympathize with her and try
to be understanding towards her uncanny ways, the faster
you'll be digging your own emotional grave. If a person
really is rightful (and not just in their own opinion) then they
need to stand up for themself against whoever that
may be and whenever. Maybe that's what you need to do
too.
I raised my voice many time but my abuser is revengeful..and I got it worse...I live in constant fea of pleasing her so she doesn't get mad..but she has her own temprament
Re: Emotional Abuse
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There's a difference between nagged and being struck in the face with something hard
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what ever it was thats what made u angry temporerily atleast i hope its temporary.
If it is not a pet, who is it?
LK, try to be strong in the face of such thing when you have to live with it day-to-day. Insh’allah when the time comes, one day you’ll be able to leave her abusive ways for good. I hope that day comes soon for you.
You got struck with something in the face?? So we're onto physical abuse too. Sweetheart, i have to agree with sweetpie - i hope you can turn your back on all this abuse one day...and the quicker it comes the better.
you are ur own woman , stop thinking about it , and block that person out .When ur talkin to her , talk like u dont care , make her be the one trying to please , not the other way around.Just be completely indifferent to her , if not on the inside then the outside. Itlll get better hopefully .
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what ever it was thats what made u angry temporerily atleast i hope its temporary.
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You know robby I wish I could be angry...I\d fel so much better..but I feel hurt...very hurt and very alone...very very alone.
DD - yeh it gets physical and there's some pushing around...but I don't bleed on anything.
Sweetepie - I hope I can get away from it too...but you see it doesn't change the fact that this person just doesn't show any love to me..sometimes things are great..laughin and joking and talking normally but then...sigh
T2 - it won't work...if I do that..I get the emotional blackmail that I'm being immature or whatever...and I really can't stand it.
So sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I hope that being here, amongst friends, helps you to cope just a little bit better.
I am not sure what else I should say, other than I hope it's okay to include you in my prayers.
Best wishes,
Me.
“Dogs love their friends and bite their enemies, quite unlike people, who are incapable of pure love and always have to mix love and hate.”
– Sigmund Freud
There are reasons why this person does this. Get inside her head, understand her perspective.. I’m not saying this so that you may be sympathetic, but so you can be ready. Once you figure out how she thinks, think like her when you’re around. I’m sure it’s all irrational behavior, but it can be anticipated. Know what she’s going to do, and then take it a step further. Don’t go into outbursts, but do assert yourself often enough that she is reminded but not provoked. Give yourself thought exercises.. it might sound weird, but it’ll keep you on your toes.
Most importantly, have something you like for when you’re not around this person. Find a comic strip that makes you laugh every day. Come here and say what you please. Stay active. Find your strength.
Make all of this routine. It’s easier to tolerate boredom than abuse. It’s not fun being numb, but until you find a way out that’s the only choice. And find a way out soon!
spoon - i do knwo whats inside her head and trust me I do understand her..after all i do love her..and i do know days when i knwo i'm gonna get it..but you can't avoid it coz it coudlhappn in a mall or walkin down the street with her..anywhere...
I read your article and I really wanted to tell you so many things, to comfort you and console you, to may be sharing some of your pain. I don’t think I can feel it as you alone will know the pain going through it, but like I said, I would want to share it to lighten it.
You know, there are many among us who go through what you have and sometimes get so used to it that our tears refuse to flow and the most amazing part is that this pain is from those who we happen to love the most. It’s heartbreaking and forlornly true that those who love us the most can give the far more pain still known to mankind.
I’ve been through a lot of pain too but then I guess we all learn to live with it…
I’m really sorry but then every new day is a new story.. live it because you live only once. Be brave…