Effects of a broken relationship on children.

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Re: Effects of a broken relationship on children.

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My parents divorced when I was 9 years old. It was a terrible marriage and I still to this day have emotional scars from it. My father was physically abusive towards my mother. I have always held a grudge against him for that. But the divorce itself was a big relief for me. I was happier being raised by a single mother than having to witness my father beating my mother and insulting her verbally over the most petty things.

I am a very sensitive person and I get upset easily. I do not attribute this to the divorce, but rather the trauma I went through for the first 9 years of my life where I had to witness my father beating my mother and all the yelling and never any peace in the house. It has really affected me and I have never really gotten over what happened and am very angry and resentful at my father which is why I pretty much treat him like garbage.

Divorce is NECESSARY in situations where the marriage is so unhealthy that is can have life long negative effects on the children!

I can understand why your mom was always scared of your dad. Someone must have convinced her that she can have a better life and that all men aren’t like this. I see it as you were her soulmate and you and she looked out for each other. As years went by, she must have forgotten what she went through. What was her life like after the divorce and now? Did she remarry and what was the reaction of people if she did decide to tell them that she was divorced?