Okay, WOW...yeah most of you COMPLETELY missed the point of my thread. Sara, Queer, BBQ, Ladlee and Reha got what I was trying to say. OBVIOUSLY education moulds us; school is a very important part of our life. It gives us the life skills we need, builds our personalities etc etc what I’m trying to say is why force your children into further education, put them in debt knowing you’re not gonna give them the option to work. I’m getting a law degree, by the time I’ve graduated I’m gonna be in a lottttt of debt, not only that I’ve spent the last 2 years pushing myself like I’ve never done before just to be told that I don’t need a job? It’s like someone taking cooking lessons and then never cooking, yes educate your daughters, it’s illegal to not send your children to school (in some countries not all), but why educate them to degree level when essentially that degree is not gonna be utilised. Fair enough I’ll have a degree, and as some of you said it’ll come in handy if I ever need to fend for myself say if my husband can’t, but having a degree doesn’t automatically mean in 10 years time or 20 years time when I have to get a job I’m gonna get one purely cause I have a degree. You need EXPERIENCE, and you can’t get experience without a job. I’ve talked to them about this so much but I always get the same response, while you’re living under our roof you don’t need to work. My mum likes to protect us and she thinks (or has heard experienced) other peoples daughters working, becoming independent and essentially running their own lives. They want me to need them, that what this boils down too. Money is not the problem. I’m passionate about what I want to do in the future, I want to teach, so to be going to uni, getting a degree and being qualified enough to get the job but then being told I’m not allowed it? It’s insane to me. I might as well have saved myself the stress I’ve went through the last 4 years, sat at home and learnt to cook and clean. FURTHER EDUCATION is what I’m referring to, degrees. Not school.
And yeah another thing, I was FORCED into getting a GOOD degree. I had the choice between pharmacy, accountancy and law. WTF? WHAT is the point if I’m not gonna be able to do anything with this degree? That’s what I’m trying to get at.
And RV thank you for your advice.
Agreed. It is one thing to get a general education base so you can be a better mother. It is another to pursue a higher specialized degree that involves more years of schooling, more work, etc only to not pursue it. You being a lawyer isn't going to make you a better wife/mom than the next lady.
All this is about, honestly, is pumping up rishtaa CV's. A girl with the right looks, manners, religion, and a higher degree of education is more desirable than a girl with all the same minus the higher degree.
In other words, you're going to catch better rishtas being a lawyer than being a bachelor graduate, and the difference is so big that your parents are willing to invest MONEY into your education, help you pay off your debt SO THAT you can get that better rishta.
As much as I hate this system, I think we wouldn't need it as much if good guys weren't so hard to come by. Girls' families are doing literally the most ridiculous things these days to compete for those rishtas.
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