Early marriage is necessary

[Deeba1234]

Re: Early marriage is necessary

@Sara_Abeeha

1. I have never meant that all women need to accept their husbands taking second wives. I clarified my position in this thread. My position is that in a community/family where monogamy is the norm then a man from such a background REQUIRES his first wife’s permission for a second marriage. And she does NOT have to give permission. Thos is in Shariah.

2. When I said women should accept their husbands taking more wives then I only meant those women who come from families where polygamy is the norm. Such women have no excuse of avoiding it (unless they put a no-second wife clause in the marriage contract) because in a community where polygamy is the norm, the husband does not need his first wife’s permission for a second marriage.

3. Its usually the same scholars who say that a Niqab is only optional who say that women have no right to avoid polygamy (i.e Hanafis). Its the scholars who say that Niqab is fardh who are the ones that allow women to avoid polygamy.(i.e Hanbalis).

So you have to learn to compromise. You cannot get everything in life.

4. We MUST follow the strongest opinion. Blind following is not permissible in our religion. The Christians and Jews did the same with their scholars. Whatever their rabbis and priests made haram for them and made halal for them they took. This is why the Quran says that the Jews and Christians took their scholars and rabbis as their lords. We MUST follow the strongest opinion. The one with the most evidence from the Quran and Sunnah.

Whether or not they accept their husbands taking another wife is UP TO THEM whether you like it or not.. A woman can divorce if she is unhappy or no longer loves her husband..

Are you living in Saudi Arabia by any chance because your posts are coming across as very anti-women and you’re deliberately not talking about our rights.. You’re taking the most rigid hardline view of Islam and saying it’s the ‘strongest’ opinion just because it’s what you believe..

I KNOW a man doesn’t need permission, I’ve already said that but for the last time just as he has the right to take a second wife she has the right to choose not to be part of that arrangement.. I don’t know why that is so hard for you to understand..

You chose to stay with a husband who took a second wife for whatever reason and that’s down to you but you have no right to criticise or look down on those women who exercise their right not to..