PCG when you hook up I want you to come to me and tell me you're not jealous "at all" when your man goes and interacts in some or other manner with a female. Then we shall talk. :p
Plus Im not talking about jealousy in either extreme , Im relating it to normal worry about the other half and such.
There has to be a " just enough" sort of thing. And both people in the relationship have to have a mutual understanding of it . Which I am sure is rare, and people who can understand each other and to what extent they will each get jealous -are lucky.
And frankly its not about checking pockets or going to his office . Its about having the option to know stuff about your partner. And why shouldnt a couple be able to share all personal stuff? I mean I dont think I could be with a guy who cant tell me what happened at work or who he knows etc. If theres going to be a relationship, there has to be trust. And if there is trust exchanging personal info is going to come into question sooner or later. But its in the end up to the couple as to how they wish to handle it. Most of my friends and their bfs/hubbies use each others accounts and will put their own name so others know who is online.
I mean I dont think I could be with a guy who cant tell me what happened at work or who he knows etc
I think you can definitely have this without needing to pry into someone's email account. How is it any different from having a best friend or a parent or a sibling who you're really close to, where I'm sure you are not viewing their email account.
Yes, I think if your partner is not willing to share details of their life like what's going on at work, what's going on at home, then one should at least look at the reasons why that is. I personally don't like it if there is little sharing, since it tells me that person doesn't trust me much. But then you need to evaluate the situation. If its your hubby, then red signals should go up. If its a boyfriend, maybe they aren't going to ever be comfortable sharing personal details until there is some marriage committment. And with most BF/GF relationships, we both know that committment isn't really there, even if we fool ourselves into believing it is. Been there, done that.
But to have a relationship where you're telling a person details of your life, and vice versa...then what need is there of email prying? If you're looking at someone else's email it says one thing and one thing only - that you're not trusting that person to tell it to you all face to face. And that's not a good sign, and I personally don't see why anyone should have to worry about stuff like that. There is no other reason to look into someone's email other than to make sure no one else is hitting on your bf/husband and to make sure that bf/hubby is not playing around (from a girl's perspective).
If its an issue of "it helps me get to know the person better", then I'm sorry, but pray tell, why can't discussions between a couple just take care of that element?
And MQ - I'm speaking totally from experience, worry not.
PCG I know you're talking from experience. But those are your experiences. You might change your mind after something else, or you might not. I might have experienced something positive where as you experienced something negative. It is true we learn from what we live through, but I think we should always keep an open mind. Maybe things didnt go right for us, therefore we should learn different from what we have experienced.
Couples talk of course and they share stuff. But see here, we get a summary of it. And even details sometimes. But having passwords to emails isnt just about getting the full story. Its knowing your partner trusts you that he/she will give you their password.
Personally I think its saying "this is me I want to share it all with you, you're my other half you , I have nothing to hide or keep from you" . Some people might want the passwords to spy on their other half - but as far as Im concerned to me its saying they care about each other and trust each other a lot. Its the "whats mine is yours" concept.
You dont have to agree with it. You dont even have to like it. But some of us and our relationships work better because we hide nothing from the significant others.
Its not about a lack of trust. Its about a lot of trust instead.
I honestly dont see why hiding email account info makes any sense in a relationship.
I don’t think having an online email account and not giving someone your password classifies as “hiding”. I think its more healthy to talk events out - and if someone doesn’t want to divulge every detail of every thought that is in their head, then there’s nothing wrong with it.
I simply say that is your significant other is asking you your password, and then its better to look into [WHY] that person wants to know so much and why they don’t trust you to just tell them?
And this is not about me, for God’s sakes, you immature little internet users (some of you) who are hell bent in trying to figure out what is going on in my personal life by reading too much into my thread topics. Mein tho vaise hi itna buk buk karti hoon, ke my spouse would probably not be interested in reading my emails. He’d get enough of it through my non-stop chatterbox mouth.
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Mein tho vaise hi itna buk buk karti hoon, ke my spouse would probably not be interested in reading my emails. He’d get enough of it through my non-stop chatterbox mouth.