A guy friend of mine is going to be marrying in a months time to a muslim girl. The thing is, my friend is Pakistani, but not muslim. He told me he isnt muslim, but none of his family or friends knows this. Not even the girl. Considering that in islam, the majority opinion is that a girl cannot marry a non-muslim man, is it his duty to tell her his beliefs? He has told me that he does not intend on telling her, because the children can be raised as muslims.
Is there a duty to tell on his part?
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If you tell the girl, your friendship with the guy will be at risk! but if u dont then her relationship with your friend will be at risk!
The only thing i can suggest is to have a long talk with the your friend and make him realise the consequences of his deception.
I agree with MadCon..Its important to realise that a marriage is based on trust and if your friend is breaking this trust even b4 the marriage itself i can only imagine what else he is capable of..this is hideous (sp?) Talk him out of it
My question isnt whether I should talk to the girl, its whether its a duty on his part to tell the girl. My friend has mentioned the situation to me in order to get a response from me, so in that effect he has somewhat made it my business. smile
ahmadjee,
They are planning to have it at the girls house. The imam will go there and perform the ceremony. smile
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[This message has been edited by Munni (edited May 03, 2002).]
if he doesn't, and she doesn't know, and he hides it well from her...it wont be sin on her part, becuz she didn't know...but when she sees he's not reading namaz, and he's doing non-muslim sorta things, obviously, she's gonna find out and obviously, so will the kids.
hence, he'll ruin the marriage later on.
and also, why is he marrying someone he plans on decieving?
The girl is marrying the guy and didn't ask him whether he is a muslim or not?
Either the guy lied to the girl, in which case, it is none of your business to poke your nose in his personal affairs by going behind his back to tell his fiancee.
Or else the girl never asked him, which shows you how much importance she attaches to this issue. In which case, you can forget about it and go on with your life.
Eitherway, just warn your guy friend, that if he lied to the girl he may rue this later in life.
"He told me he isnt muslim, but none of his family or friends knows this."
I'm a little confused by the above statement. Are you saying that he was born into a Muslim family BUT left Islam and never told his family? Is HIS family Muslim?
"Considering that in islam, the majority opinion is that a girl cannot marry a non-muslim man"
I dunno about anyone else, but I have never seen anything that even hints that it is allowed for a Muslim woman to marry a non-muslim. Muslim men can marry Christian or Jewish women BUT a Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man. The reason being that the kids follow the father's religion.
"is it his duty to tell her his beliefs?"
Yes.
I'm wondering about something. Maybe you can ask your friend this and let me know. Is your friend planning to EVER reveal his secret to his family or his future wife? If so when? Is he willing to let his children be raised as Muslims? As someone mentioned earlier...starting a marriage with a lie is a huge mistake. Can he even imagine what the girl will feel emotionally when she finds out he has deceived her and her family like this? If he cared for her at all, he will tell her the truth. This is a life-changing decision for both of them...and for him to deceive her in this decision is very uncaring, and cruel.
Of course he should tell her. Before you marry someone, you should tell them all the important things about yourself.
Marriage needs to be built on trust, and if you leave out something that important, then the trust won't be there. I would have a long talk with my friend.
Seems like this couple has never even talked about religion, which is a pretty delicated matter in relationships. Even if both are raised as muslim shouldn't they discuss how they precieve religion and apply it in their life style?
I would think this is one of the most vital aspects of getting to know someone and an intericate part of what makes them who they are. Be it they are pious or not.
If not looked upon in the prospective of religion than it should be seen in the light of having morals and being honest, honesty from both parties is a imperative aspect, if he is not wise enough to realize this important notion of marriage than he needs to wait awhile to get married perphas.
Of course he has. if he doesn't tell then gets married, the nikah is not valid. because he is not muslim
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