Durr-e- Shawar - A play by Umera Ahmed

[sarad]

Re: Durr-e- Shawar - A play by Umera Ahmed

@mulan400

I started this play and do not know if the characters are intended as such or there is some lapse in direction but the first episode was very judgmental. So all of Shandana’s marital and parental woes stem from her decision to work? and Hyder is all good even if it means behaving like an A–hole like not even bothering to pay his wife’s parents an annual visit.
And its not just working women whose children “hate” them as Sophie is repeatedly made to say, women who are full time home makers get a lot of flak from their children and husbands and always have. Whether she wants to work or stay home is entirely a woman’s choice. i know a lot of so called “housewives” who spend more time in salons and malls than around teh house and working women who balance their work and family life better than the former. Either ways there should be no generalizations. God knows we’ve grown up on stories of one too many working women ending up with much deserved broken homes, families etc and TV dramas could do with one less such stereotype.

may be you havent watched the rest of the episodes. They are not showing Hyder to be all good or Shandana at fault.
Shandana works and Hyder does not help at all with the daughter. He also stopped doing little things like buying flowers or doing anything for her on her request. Then she sees that her father is a perfect husband always caring and all so the resentment grows.

As for Sophie, later in Murree, she thinks her dad does not care for mom or her. the way I see it, they show that the kids get confused between parents fights.

I dont think they are showing working women have problems in the house because (as another poster remarked) a working woman is over worked and unable to fulfil her responbsibilites. Dure shawar was a stay at home wife and she faced problems and Shandana is a working wife facing problems.