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I think I might be the only person who doesn't know this...but whats a ghoongat? :S
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these are ghoonghat
i hate it and a lot of my gujurati friends don't wear a dupatta at the reception or ismaili brides. It does take the look of being a bride and that regal-beauty away. I also notice that these days all girls know how to do dramatic eyemakeup, many people have nice sets that aren't real but are just as blingy as some bridal sets so when you take pictures of a group of girls and it's from the chest up the bride doesn't stand out nearly as much as she ought to. So me personally, i think it's a must. Even if it's an extra net dupatta and the real dupatta is pinned nicely on the outfit that's fine but something to make the bride look different from her guests is needed.
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^ I agree with SLH
In today's shaadi's the guests are so glammed up that often it is hard for the bride to truly stand out like she should. Wearing the dupatta on the head is a sure way of getting that effect.
I have seen a couple of Pakistani brides not wearing the dupatta on their heads for Valima (I am assuming its because they want to be "non-traditional" brides...). They still looked pretty.. but yea.. blended in more with the crowd. I am all for traditional looking....
All of the Sikh and Hindu wedding receptions I have gone to ... not a single bride wears the dupatta on her head...its always nicely pinned. So when I see Pakistani brides not wearing the dupatta on their head and rather they have it pinned.... it just seems like they are copying another cultures bridal trend to me.
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Ohh okay, thanks devilish angel. I didn't realize that style had a name, I just thought it was a tradition to cover up.
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i just hate such brides widout dupattassss..ufff im unable to catch their thinking or watever i should say mayb a big complex they hv in their mind....sari umer pari hay duppate k bhagair phirne ki just these days y they can nt put it...strange...n honestly no one till now luked super or even gud widout duppata i hv seen the brides...
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What is the point of the dupatta on the head anyways? Is there some significance? is it for religious reasons (i.e hijab, modesty)?
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Its true Punjabi Rose, all of the indian, hindu and sikh weddings these days that I have seen, brides don't wear the dupatta on their second day. Its the trend in their culture. It just looks like their having an engagement party or something.
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IMO, if the bride is not hijabi, then I dont really see the point of wearing the dupatta on her head. I think i'm the only one that likes the fact that dupatta is not on her head. I mean what is the point if she's wearing really short sleeves and a plunging neckline anyways?
At least the girl can show off her hairstyle that she spent her hard earned money on, or her daddy's money :)
And if the girl is sitting on the stage, I dont get how she will blend in with the crowd. It's her wedding, all eyes will be on her.
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Okay Sahar's valima was different because like she said, it was 2.5 years later. I would probably do the same if I were in her shoes. The look changes a bit according to the situation.
I wore a dupatta on all of my events but have been to weddings where the valima was a week out and the bride opted for the dupatta to be draped on her shoulder or twisted in her arms. It just strikes me as a bit off balance.
Like I said before, these girls still looked beautiful Mashallah. Lekin the only thing telling them apart was the fact that they were sitting on a bridal stage.
At least the girl can show off her hairstyle that she spent her hard earned money on, or her daddy's money :)
I agree that wearing a dupatta adds to the 'bridal' look, but I also wonder what the point is of spending hundreds of dollars to get your hair done when no one is going to see it anyway?
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^ I dont think brides necessarily get their hair done separately. Its usually part of their bridal package.
Besides, I wouldnt want a bird's nest when I take off my dupatta later on in the evening in front of hubby.
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The brides are not the only ones with the dupattas on their heads. In that case, people might mistake the bride's grandmother for being the bride lol.
the bride has other stand out qualities:
- her jewelery (theeka, jhummar, huge set, bangles, etc)
- bouquet (hey, if ur not the bride and ur holding flowers, there is something wrong with u)
- her magnificent trousseau, which would probably be the most expensive outfit that night (unless there's you have one of those chicks that like to steal everyone's thunder)
- her makeup
- her man
- and her overall glow. its her wedding, so shes the happiest person there!
i dont like it either, not wearing a dupatta…
yahan dekho, if she hadn`t the dupatte on, you couldnt decide, whos the bride:
or look at this, she could also be the bride, the difference is just the dupatta setting!
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:)
IMO, if the bride is not hijabi, then I dont really see the point of wearing the dupatta on her head. I think i'm the only one that likes the fact that dupatta is not on her head. I mean what is the point if she's wearing really short sleeves and a plunging neckline anyways?
At least the girl can show off her hairstyle that she spent her hard earned money on, or her daddy's money :)
And if the girl is sitting on the stage, I dont get how she will blend in with the crowd. It's her wedding, all eyes will be on her.
but i don't think covering the hair for the sake of hijab was ever the purpose of the dupatta on head for a bride. as gori's wear veils to cover their heads, so we wear dupattas- i mean, it is what it is, you know? sometimes its because you're getting married in a masjid and you are required to cover your head- as they are when marry in a church or synagogue- and for all i know, that was the start of the tradition.
my point is, there's no greater purpose or intention behind it other than tradition and "looking bridal". i didn't wear my dupatta on head for the mehendi because i thought it would be a bit much since it was not such a formal affair as the shaadi but i definitely had my dupatta on head for the shaadi! i wouldn't have felt like a bride without it.
as for identifying the bride otherwise- of course everyone attending her wedding will know who the bride is, but its yet another way of distinguishing yourself from your guests because for sure, no one else will be wearing a head covering unless they are hijabi and for sure you won't be wearing it ever again either unless you re-marry or take the hijab.
its the same reason why you hire a makeup artist for $500 for something you'll just wash off at the end of the night and why you spend 1000's on a dress you'll probably one wear once in your life ;)
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Well, the tradition is different there. Sikh girls always wear duputta on the head for the gurdwara ceremony, you can't even enter the gurdwara without duputta on the head, but they just don't wear it so for the dancing & so on at the reception later.
Hindu girls traditionally wear a sari anyway, & the girl's chunni is given by the groom's family for tying the couple - its seldom worn on the head because it can cause a problem when the priest ties it to the boy - imagine how painful if the groom accidentally yanks it off her head during the pheras? That's why its pinned so carefully. Wearing a lengha with duputta is a new thing in recent years for Hindu girls - the duputta is given by the groom's family to use as the ceremony chunni & again they pin it so it can be used without problem in the ceremony.
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great example mbar! touche
you really cant tell!
No I know that. That is why I said the “wedding reception”. And at the reception, the girls do not wear what they wore for the actual marriage ceremony part (the religious part basically). It’s a whole other outfit. And usually the outfit is a lehnga and the dupatta is not on the head. With us, sometimes we have a separate nikkah and a separate baraat reception. But with hindu/sikh girls - their marriage ceremonies are always separate from the actual reception. They look pretty at their receptions… but they do sometimes tend to blend in with the rest of the guests. My friends tell me that they dont really care to wear the heavy jewelry and heavy kaam walay dresses with dupattas on their heads for the reception because it comes in the way of all the dancing 
Their reasoning makes sense.
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I still prefer Pakistani brides to have the dupatta on her head … especially for the baraat and valima receptions. It has nothing really to do with religion… just a cultural bridal look… which looks very appropriate
I think the fab hairstyle hidden under the dupatta is meant more for the hubby anyways … its a once in a lifetime thing henna?? So its like why not 
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well to each their own. I guess I'm the only one on one side of the fence :).
lol I like to be different.
Punjabi Rose...trust me..the hubby really doesn't care about the hair...he has other things on his mind. ha ha.