I find it interesting how people in one thread get so annoyed at “aunties” who complain when brides don’t cry at their rukhsatis because they’re not following tradition, and it doesn’t “look bridal.” Then you come to this thread and see people complaining how brides with uncovered hair don’t “look bridal” enough.
If a bride wants to keep her hair uncovered, its her prerogative. She shouldn’t feel obligated to change the way she dresses because of rude guests who dress inappropriately.
It’s not congruent at all really. White wedding dresses are actually a fairly recent tradition among Western brides; up until about a century ago people just wore their best dress to their weddings. I think a more appropriate comparison would be the concept of the veil in Western weddings - traditionally Western brides wore veils to the altar. Many brides still do, plenty opt not to (especially if they aren’t having church weddings), and its really not considered a big deal either way.