*drum roll please* western vs eatern girls

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@farrah

OK … so i’ve been reading soooo many things about paki girls in pakistan and paki girls abroad … and it’s driving me nuts … i am completely new to this concept and i had no idea that this is what’s going on … i am assuming most of the people on this forum are … well to make it easier i will call paki girls from pakistan “rasheeda” and paki girls from abroad “rukhshanda” …
so most of the women here are rukhshandaz … lol … and i am a rasheeda-turned-rakhshanda since a year … and no i am not an imported bride …

my confusion that i have developed after being on this forum: are rakhshandaz career-oriented, forward-thinking, super-educated babes … OR … are they docile, religious, uber-traditional what’s the opposite of a babe? … and similarly for the rasheedas … do rakhshandaz think that rasheedaz are uneducated, uncultured, unangraized folks or what?

see i went to a very liberal private girl’s school … and we had lots of girls coming from abroad that time of life when parents think of going back home to get their children associated with their roots … and MOST of them were such docile girls … we’d be like where have you come from? super hijabs and soft spoken and SUPER shy … on the other hand of the spectrum were the few who were extremely modern … one time i remember our administrator sent a letter to the parents of these two sisters to get them some decent shalwar kameez stitched becuz they’d be wearing side-slit skirts and the sort … even my own cousins that lived abroad, and came to pakistan for holidays … they’d be liek why are you speaking in english to us … we can speak urdu … and i’m just like .. i’m not speaking english to impress you or because you come from an english speaking place … but because pakistan is ALSO an english speaking place … the laws are written in english forGodsake! this is how the culture is here .. and you cant say whether its good or bad … becuz it just IS this way … my own sister is worst at urdu! she cant speak ONE complete sentence in urdu to save her life! and then girl’s coming from abroad would be exempt from pak-studies and urdu … making my sister feel horrible and wanting to get a fake british passport … lol … she was 15 then! …
i dont know how rakhshandaz perceive rasheedaz .. but times have radically changed in pakistan … for women as well … the insecurities there are not just women related … even men have to be more careful … it’s the overall crisis the state is going through thanks to our beloved government …
and eversince i’ve become a rakhshanda myself … believe me my rasheeda side is so terrified to mingle with rakhshandaz on the road becuz they seem so uninviting … the good ones are hiding presumably as i’ve been told … luckily after a year i found GS .. and a few good souls God bless
in ways i feel pakistan is way more relaxed and modern … and if someone goes abroad and tells their cousins that OMG you guys are so boring for not going to bars and clubs … it doesnt mean that they do the same back home … it’s an anticipation of a culture and the differences that are highlighted … although i am horrified at teh news of this underground club being opened in karachi … ugh mad … when i came here (where i am) … going to a club was the last thing on my mind … had other issues to deal with … but it was definitely something i wanted to see … and i did … but not becuz i have a bad character and OMG and all that … you see so much on television in pakistan … and you just want to go see it for real … it was horrible and drove me nuts … NAIVER AGAIN
oh and yes … one more confusion … on one hand rakhshandaz drive men like Pushtoon Warrior to pakistan to find a girl .. but on the other hand there are some who also hold the moral flag and pass statements about how rasaheedaz are with their burkaz and all and how rakhshandaz are way more religious … and in that sense then i think PW should find someone in the west becuz they are more religious ..
so i am in terrible confusion about this entire story of rakhshandaz and rasheedaz … please tell me whats your take on it … becuz really i am at the brink of building the berlin wall all over again … but this time between pakistan and the west … to stop any kind of import export … …

to make it better … i’d like the “manzoors” and the “majids” to also feel free to comment

manzoor = paki men abroad
majid = paki men in pakistan

p.s. sorry for the long post … but i just had to …

lol… i havent read such an awesome post in AGES

on the other hand i agree with points made my aahmed and PSquared..

PSquared… do you really think not allowing ur kids to do their own shopping.. or to even go to a mall till they are in their late teens.. is ok? hmmm