For ladies: You are married, and the type of clothes you wear now are still the same type of clothes you’re wearing in this thought experiment. Your husband tells you that he feels your dress is not Islamic enough, and that you need to cover up more. Whether that means he wants you to stop wearing skirts, or to take on a hijaab, or to go from a hijaab to a niqaab, or to a niqaab to a full shuttle burqa where even your eyes do not show. What is your response to the situation?
For men: If you find that the woman you are marrying does not wear decent enough clothes according to your tolerance level, then will you:
still marry her, and then demand her to change her dress?
not marry her
still marry her, and then not care if she changes her dress style or not
well i might take a hijab if my husband wants, but nothing more, i cannot become a shuttle cock for anyone' sake, plus i have a breathing problem so niqab is just not my thing.
asa for guys, most guys go for girls hwo are really mod scott and stylish and then try to change them after marriage, its especially true for pakistani guys who place great importance on looks.
we are suppose to cover our body and head, face and hands are ok. so i guess niqab and burqa is crossed out on my list. hijab is fine with me. if by hijab you mean covereing my head...
Did he do a 360 degree turn or somethin that he didnt have a problem wiht how she looked/dressed before? Unless that’s the case then he has no right to dictate that she change the way she dresses, becasue that’s what attracted him to her in the first place.
I personally would never change the way I dress just b/c my future husband doesn't like it. If he has a problem with it, then he never should've married me in the first place.
One of my friends had this issue with her hubby. After marriage, he wanted her to stop wearing skirts/short sleeved tops etc. The first few months they constantly fought b/c she would try to reason with him. Finally she got tired of all the arguaing and one day, sat him down, and told him that she will NEVER change the way she dresses for anyone else, and that if her choice of clothing bothers him that much, then he should just divorce her. She told him she never wants him to nag her about her dressing...if he doesn't like it, he can just divorce her b/c she has no intention of changing it.
My friend told me after that day when she very sternly told him her thoughts, he hasn't nagged her about it since....and this is almost 2 years ago.
i would dress more conservatively if that is what my husband wanted. as far as wearing hijab i would only do it if i wanted to do it not because he wanted me to.
well abhi tuk to meray husband nay aesi koi demand nahee ki agar ki to no prob in hijab but just hijab not whole face cover wala and not burka shurka....
I'm having sort of a problem with my in-laws to be these days regarding the same issue. My MIL wants me to change the way I dress and she wants me to wear fitted clothes and do more makeup and get a new haircut. I don't know what to do....I prefer lose clothes and don't like makeup and don't wanna change my haircut/style for HER....If it was my fiance I wouldn't mind so much, afterall, it's HIM I'll want to please in the future. But my fiance never told me to change like this before and now he's telling me I should change a little.....Anyone has an advice for me here??
The only one whso opinion matters is yours, and to an extent, his. his family, esp his mother, has no right to tell you how to dress or do your hair or makeup. However, if he feels that you should change ur look up a little bit, what’s the harm in that? You’re supposed to look attractive for ur husband anyway, that’s what a gud wife does
I think I would consider it because he is pushing me towards the right direction but I dont believe nikab is necessary, so I wouldnt do that and I would expect him to respect my beliefs. (Thank God he does!) But that doesnt mean i am all wrapped up all over and he ogles half naked women. I would make sure hes lowering his gaze.
I didn’t have chai with him but I did have a talk with him and told him that I don’t mind changing how I look a little for HIM and also asked him if he has a problem with my dressing(he does actually have a problem with me wearing loose clothes) so I said I’ll change that but not how his mom likes…I don’t wear fitted clothes and don’t like too much makeup(he doesn’t either) …I told him I don’t plan to change SO MUCH in the future either, that’s how I am and I told him if he has a problem with my looks or he’s worried about ‘ammi kia sochengi ya doosre log kia sochenge’ then he should really find a new girl because I’ve my own personality and this is how I dress and look!
the thing is, he doesn’t have much of a problem…he’s fine with me doing my thing but his mom wants me to change A LOT…I don’t know how to communicate with her regarding this issue, I don’t want to be harsh to her…but I do want to find a way to tell her that I wanna look good but for my hubby to be only and wanna be myself!
Mothers can influence their sons A LOT, i am sure he finds you attractive the way you are or he wouldnt be marrying you. Hmmmm i have never been in the situation so i dont know how you would talk to the mom but cant he talk to her? As in tell her that he like you the way you are?
