So recently I have been seeing anybody who goes to Pakistan or India will bring back some two three dozen dresses which they like to sell to their friends and acquaintances.
Some of them sellers think that we are from Mars and we do not know the real prices of the dresses they are selling so they keep their markup very high. Plus since they bring only a few dozen of those dresses there is not a wide choice or variety. Their color choice and design does not go with our taste.
My wife feels morally obligated to buy at least one dress to keep them happy and stay in the list of their friends. Plus if I die I want to have lot of people in my janaza and make dua for my maghfarat.
But now I am at a breaking point with these dress beggers.
How do I say no to them or better yet tell my wife to say no to those dress beggars and still stay in the list of their friends.
So recently I have been seeing anybody who goes to Pakistan or India will bring back some two three dozen dresses which they like to sell to their friends and acquaintances.
Some of them sellers think that we are from Mars and we do not know the real prices of the dresses they are selling so they keep their markup very high. Plus since they bring only a few dozen of those dresses there is not a wide choice or variety. Their color choice and design does not go with our taste.
My wife feels morally obligated to buy at least one dress to keep them happy and stay in the list of their friends. Plus if I die I want to have lot of people in my janaza and make dua for my maghfarat.
But now I am at a breaking point with these dress beggers.
How do I say no to them or better yet tell my wife to say no to those dress beggars and still stay in the list of their friends.
Why wud u or ur wife be friends with someone who is only your friend becoz you r buying their dresses. Its like paying for friendship.
I do undersatnd you feel little embarssed to say No to people who r friends with u but they should not break up ties coz u didnt wana buy a 200 dollars dress that u didnt even like.
Seriously , one friend of mine used to annoy the heck out of people and I used to tell him , jub tum maro gay toh apna janaza bhee khud he utha k lay jana paray ga , koi nahi aye ga tumharay janazay main.
One of our neighbours used to (probs still does) sell clothes that she would get made from Pakistan and I bought a couple when she first started. After a couple of years her prices doubled and I just said to her 'Sorry aunty, can't afford your clothes anymore.' Had the quality of her clothes doubled like the price I probably still would have bought them, but they were the same quality clothes. She didn't talk to me for a while but that didnt bother me, she's just an aunty. I have loads of aunties.
sometimes I use this as justification…but now I’ve begun to think that this is just another form of pressure that breeds hypocrisy…either you stand your ground and be honest with yourself and others (diplomatically of course) or you accept the fact that when you die Allah will take care of whatever is needed…
I used to feel very obligated when it came to "friends" and helping them with their business ventures, but now I don't anymore. If I don't like the product or if it is too expensive, I just say no thanks and do not feel bad about it.
Life is too short to be making others happy at your own expense - be it emotional or financial expense.
