Synopsis: Female friend has gone a little nuts. We have been friends for a few years till her mother got it into her head that we would make a great couple. I very bluntly said not possible. We continued to stay friends or so I thought. Now that I am around in town she and her parents have been acting odd. Odd enough that even I notice it and I am freaking Helen Keller around women. They had me over for dinner and well lets say it was bloody awkward. What was supposed to be a bunch of people turned out to be me and her parents. Luckily I brought Didi along as a shield. Anyway advice is sought.
Can we remain friends?
My assumption is we can not considering the girl has crossed the line of just being friends, so how do i let her down gently?
Female advice is sought. Gentlemen you are allowed to make jokes at my expense.
LOL ur situations funny...anyway yeah man quit being friends with her (at least until she starts acting normal) ...no need to let her down gently or to talk to her (idk a lot of people might say 'talk it out' or whatever but i dont believe in talking things out but maybe thats just me whatever) anyway u have talked to her and obvs it hasnt worked soo...yeah just be distant...cold but polite is the way to go .....WOW her parents are weird
Im pretty sure she will get the message at some point when you two dont end up married.
It depends on the friendship and how deep it was. If you two were very close, then maybe talking it out is a good option. Please dont say things like "Im not interested" or something.
You can tell her you are already interested in someone else, not ready for marriage, gay, whatever.
If you're not close to her...leave her alone. She will get it.
My course of action? Not sure as of yet. More opinions would provide me with further insight to the options on what is best suited for the situation. We are good friends, not as close as my usual group but one of the few people i do click with naturally and I would hate to lose a good friend over such a matter.
If you had a talk 9 months back then it's time to do it again. It seems like she and her parents took it as a "hard to get" act. Talk to her again and explain that your opinion about this relationship has not changed. You don't want to loose her as friend but if pushed then you have no other option than end this friendship.
I don't think its wise to quit being friends with her since it looks like she is a good or have been a good friend of yours. Somehow make her understand that what she and her parents want will not work. Tell her that your parents don't approve of this all or you can say you are not ready for any commitment at this stage.
I personally don't think its wise to lose a friend over this. A lot of girls and a lot of guys in dosti like each other or even love but somehow things don't work out right.. Of course she is a good friend of your that's why you were invited for dinner.
Don't be rude to her or treat her badly because of this. Remember she has been a good friend and yeah maybe she likes you and maybe her parents do too. Just be nice and friendly towards her and make her understand that its not possible.. PS mentioned some of the things you can say to her to end all this.
and for CM, If she and her family is not getting a clear message (and as per you, you spelled it out for them), you should not be getting married here anyway
If you are VERY BEST FRIENDS, give a try or two and if friendship bond is not that strong, just avoid them
finally, you can tell them that you are gay and you are looking for your very own Ricky Martin and not Aishweriya Rai
What's with all this advice about moving away and telling her you're gay or interested in someone else? Can't we just stick to the truth?
If you had the talk, have it again.
Have it as many times as you need to have it if you truly value her as a "friend".
You don't find people that you "click" with easily in life and pity the person that finds someone then is successful in losing them.
Mery sadaloh bhai..
Since when men are given power to decide??
Its women who label the relation.
Men are either in love or courteous. When men are JUST being courteous women can name that many thing.
So its not your call to begin with. She likes you and she is going to stick around no matter what.
She is also going to make life difficult for her hubby because of her “indispensable” relation with you–relation which nothing more then being courteous --for you.
