Dowry for your kids

[Afshi]

Re: Dowry for your kids

@Jolie

I have a question, besides the “oh my family is great because we do this and that so it must be like that for rest of the whole world” arguments, how many ya’ll think that parents can get away with giving prayer mats, most basic items of utensil to their daughters without looking like outcasts in the society?Of course keeping the example of Hazrat Fatima in mind, in case you are Muslim.

i’ll remove the attitude from this question and answer it the best way i could:

nothing wrong with it. My dadima gave me a janamaz when I got married, and I still have it and love it. Everytime I pray on it, I remember her. It’s one of my most dearest gifts. when I went to Bangladesh after I got married, one of my husband’s cousins gave me a wedding gift. It was the tasbeeh of my husband’s late dadima, the one with 1000 beads. I was so emotional when I recieved it (because I was thinking of my dadima at that time as well) and I treasure that tasbeeh very much.

And nothign wrong with giving basic utensils either. My mom has gotten me the pots and pans, spoons, glassses, etc…all the basics. She even still does to this day give me stuff. Nothing wrong with it.

Am I assuming that gifts ONLY from the parents are what some of you people call Dowry? Basically, your answer would be that they could afford it and should but it themselves. If that’s the case, then why should you want any guest at the wedding to give the couple a gift (whether it be cash or a household item). The same reasoning should be applied there as well. Don’t you think?