Re: Dowry for your kids
So before the day of the wedding, when the girl was living with her parents all her life…all her clothing, shoes, make-up…everything that belonged to the girl at her parents house…what happened to that? I’m pretty sure she did not live naked in her parents home or borrow other people’s clothes to wear.
Maybe this is my personal experience but the women in my family…their “stuff” usually gets sent to whereever they’ll be living in a few days before the wedding. Now this doesn’t mean the the girl gets an ENTIRELY new wardrobe and everything she takes with her after marriage is brand new. It means the everything that belonged to them BEFORE the wedding, items she already used for her personal care…got sent with them. If they’re planning on staying at the hotel for the wedding night, the girl usually packs a bag with items for a day or two. And when they get to the house they’ll be living in (either with the in-laws or the guy’s separate house), the suitcase(s) from the parents house with their previous wardrobe is already there.
I guess I’m just confused as to what prevented your friend (or her parents) from sending the clothes she already owned with her. When I hear the term “jahez”, I think it’s brand new items that are bought because of the wedding (ie. clothing, shoes, make-up etc.). If a girl takes with her items she was using BEFORE the wedding already, I don’t see that as jahez. Am I the only one who thinks this way?