Estel
April 20, 2012, 2:20am
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Jolie:
I understand that and agree. Problem with our working class is not that they dont know what they can or cannot afford, problem is that they have means of lower class and lifestyle of higher class. They are in that limbo where they know they cant afford it, but they dont want people to know that they cant afford it .
Be it working class or middle class, when it comes to your childern, it is not easier to say that you can’t afford the best especially when you are living a in a deeply conformed society. I really think you lose the whole seriousness and complexities of this issue when you shrug your shoulders with ‘give what you can afford’ justification because normally this justification comes from people who are indeed in a position to afford better or shall I say standard desi wedding ‘gifts’. No one here is suggesting that give the bride away in her undergarments or you should not recieve gifts from the guests, my issue is why the dowry system is suddenly branded as ‘gift’ and gloss it up with saying that parents do it out of their love, when really, parents go through all sorts stress and obstacles to be able to afford the usual luxuary items you’d expect in traditional desi jahaiz. I don’t see anything comforting in that.
This
I always think of this drama a representation of what dowry do to ppl in our society
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