Re: Double Standards
No fayz. I argue the opposite. I don't know why you took the other direction with it. But I argue that if a woman is considered degraded because she compromised her religious values, then how do men not get treated the same way? They SHOULD NOT be treated like champions, because there's nothing superb about guys sleeping around before marriage. Especially when they have the nerve to say they don't regret. I mean, you make a mistake out of temptation one time or twice or whatever, and then you realize you're not being fair to the women you're sleeping with, your future spouse, etc. But then to say that you don't regret it, means you approve of men sleeping around before marriage.
Now all this would not matter, except I'm talking about Pakistani men, who for the most part are muslim and have no problem in turning around and pointing fingers and degrading girls. And it does happen quite a bit. The reason I opened the thread was to see how prevalent the thought process is.
I agree with ahmadjee's post. There are some differences that in the end are usually attributed to physical differences between a man and a woman. And don't talk about lifting heavy weights and what not, because even men who are not in shape will give themselves a hernia lifting heavy things.
I don't see how if a girl moves out of her home and lives in a dorm or in her own apartment, that its a bad thing? But somehow when guys do it, its not a bad thing? Then either it is a bad thing or its not. Gender should not play a role in figuring out whether an act is bad or not. Its the act itself you have to look at. If you excuse men to sleep around, then you're saying it is ok to sleep around. If you think the act is vile, then you should poo-poo men as much as you do women who do it.
But somehow bad girls always attract more limelight in our culture, and negative light too, than bad boys do. Boys are just expected to be bad.
Especially in the sleeping around example, I just don't get how its okay for a guy to sleep around. He's not sleeping with chairs, he's sleeping with women. So you have one act of sex. For that, one partner is bad, and then the other partner is good, because by the looks of what people in Mamaof3's camp are saying, your gender determines whether you sinned or not, not the nature of the act you did.
I wouldn't mind all that, but hey, if you're going to believe that mumbo-jumbo, then don't call yourselves muslim.
sirf apnae liye hi nahi sochna chahiye, selfish man.
